Mickle Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 My Wife and I have been married 3 years, she has two mixed race children, one from a long violent relationship with a Black guy who was a major player in the local drug scene. The other was a top local basket ball player who she dated whilst the first one was in prison. My Wife was I have since found out, the White Ghetto party slut available to any one for a bit of blow. The Drug dealer has now been released from prison,after 10years. My Wife takes his child around to see him when he phones her. From her appearance when she returns he is obviously using her, directly for his pleasure and indirectly for his friends pleasure. I have tried to speak to her but all she says is I do what I have to do. He does not contribute towards the childs upkeep ( neither does the Basket ball player) She has now told me she is going away to visit his Mum in Jamacia next month. do I call it a day or accept her ways. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 she's messing around with this guy while her husband is waiting at home? No sirree Bob, that ain't gonna work, divided loyalties between her ex and her marriage. have a heart to heart with her and tell her that there have got to be boundaries everyone sticks to, or consequences will result. As in, if she continues to pork this guy whenever she sees him, then she doesn't need to be married to you. Hopefully, this'll help get her head straight. If not, maybe it's time you show her the door because you didn't go into a marriage just to be run around on. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted October 3, 2008 Share Posted October 3, 2008 seriously I hope you don't have any kids with this woman because if you know she is messing around on you then just leave Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted October 3, 2008 Share Posted October 3, 2008 My Wife was I have since found out, the White Ghetto party slut available to any one for a bit of blow. What did you expect from a woman who dated a drug dealer? Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted October 3, 2008 Share Posted October 3, 2008 What did you expect from a woman who dated a drug dealer? he expected her to be greatful and expected to get a deal because she had kids... you see I'm sterio typing horibly here but when a man dates a women with kids its usualy because he thinks hes getting some kind of deal... or he's a pedo... which I'm not saying this guy is either of those Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted October 3, 2008 Share Posted October 3, 2008 You do not mention any type of love for your wife or your stepchildren. I maybe wrong but you do come across as saying, 'why cant my Wife just do things the white way?' more than any other thing within your post. We all know that drug dealers come in different races although within certain areas stereotypes probably do serve correctly for the lower end runners of drugs. Yeah, so that was my main observation from your post. Your Wife probably does not want her children to be ashamed of their heritage and so remains in contact with the only link she has with that. I dont know if your Wife is having an affair but you just dont sound like someone who really loves her or the children.. so let her go. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted October 3, 2008 Share Posted October 3, 2008 You do not mention any type of love for your wife or your stepchildren. I maybe wrong but you do come across as saying, 'why cant my Wife just do things the white way?' more than any other thing within your post. We all know that drug dealers come in different races although within certain areas stereotypes probably do serve correctly for the lower end runners of drugs. Yeah, so that was my main observation from your post. Your Wife probably does not want her children to be ashamed of their heritage and so remains in contact with the only link she has with that. I dont know if your Wife is having an affair but you just dont sound like someone who really loves her or the children.. so let her go. He just wanted to put that in the post doesn't mean he's racist just means his step children are half black and its obvios to everyone he isn't the father. Your not from the US so you don't know what black culture like over here and part of his post was about that fact so it was important info and he didn't say anything racist, this guy is a black drug dealer which is a type of person. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted October 3, 2008 Share Posted October 3, 2008 I am free to say what I want. Anyway, I did not call the poster a racist ... although he may be one for all you know. He would be best served to answer that question... so there! Also, since when must I live in a place to have an opinion of it? My opinion may not be as informed but we all carry opinions. Anyway I would challenge your need to say that a 'black drug dealer' is a type of person. The connotations within that statement do bring to the forefront a certain image, probably an image which runs in certain circles. I mean, would anyone say 'a white drug dealer?' I dont think so.. You are a bit touchy arent you? Link to post Share on other sites
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