for the lonely girl

[Sw3etdev1L]

I am 23, healthy, goodlooking, I like making good deeds 4 people u know?. I like doing exercise, I don't do drugs, don't drink more than two cups almost. I mean, I study nutrition/medicine. My good friends are very homebody calm type of the girls next door type of girls you know? Lately, due to our college and the facts my friends are with their boyfriends and stuff I've been feeling lonely. It is hard for me to find a boyfriend because even though I know how to flirt, I feel weird about it.I mean, I am flirty don't get me wrong, not the type of overdoing it and stuff.

But, the past years I have been rejecting some friends and people from my life because I've noticed they were not right for me.

Sometimes I feel I might seem antisocial because I don't really have a group to go out and party with just good friends to hang out in a good atmosphere. But not a very party environment. I am afraid that when I meet a boy, he is gonna judge me as serious, boring and antisocial when the truth is I am fun to be with, I am serious yes about so many things but I am funny too and know have to have fun in a healthy way, and I am social, but I am not a party animal social kind of girl you know? I am scared that might scare boys away from me.

I also have a problem with boys getting to talk to me, they've told me I am intimidating!!! and I hate that. Because I am a good, humble, person and I don't feel it's fair for people to see me that way. ¿what can I do?

Sometimes I feel thirsty for party friends just not to feel like a social party outcast, and sometimes boys perceive me as a very good girl. I attract pricks and then they tell me I am too good. I don't get it. And then , they just walk away.

What I am afraid of, is looking antisocial or solitary because really I don't want that. I would hate to be perceived that way and...well..

[Green]

just curious are you black?

[Eve]

My good friends are very homebody calm type of the girls next door type of girls you know? Lately, due to our college and the facts my friends are with their boyfriends and stuff I've been feeling lonely.

 

Ah, my daughter has this SAME problem. She has kept her head together and decided on waiting for 'the one' from seeing and hearing all the problems her friends have with their boyfriends!!! Now, she just says that boyfriends are too time consuming and she gets on with a wide range of people socially and is concentrating on earning distinctions so that she can go to the University of her choice. Sometimes she does get really lonely though but the options which have come to her so far in terms of relationships have not been worth the time spent away from her studies and time with friends. Still, I did like the last boy she bought home to introduce to us, though but she decided that he was too geeky in the end! She said that their friendship was more important than any relationship.

 

All I can say is really (please forgive me if I come across all Mumsy but I cannot help it) is choose cautiously who you do have a relationship with. I know that people all seem to be having a good time etc but really realtionships can be hell, or at least time consuming when really you could be concentrating on developing yourself. Love is an unpredictable thing and can come at the most unusual times... dont try and second guess love, it will come naturally in time. In the meantime work hard and travel in order to meet new people and have different experiences. By nice clothes and experiement with your hair etc... Give a thought to those whose lives arent so great and maybe volunteer a couple of hours per week. All in all use this time to look at what type of person you want to be with and gear your experiences towards meeting that sort of person.

 

You will be ok. Get yourself a box set of your favourite shows. Go to the cinema when feeling low. Do practical things to fill your time and learn to be 'with yourself. Be picky but never rude. Anyhow, hours of fun can come from recounting the lines which men come up with..

[fromlonelytogreat]

I am 23, healthy, goodlooking, I like making good deeds 4 people u know?. I like doing exercise, I don't do drugs, don't drink more than two cups almost. I mean, I study nutrition/medicine. My good friends are very homebody calm type of the girls next door type of girls you know? Lately, due to our college and the facts my friends are with their boyfriends and stuff I've been feeling lonely. It is hard for me to find a boyfriend because even though I know how to flirt, I feel weird about it.I mean, I am flirty don't get me wrong, not the type of overdoing it and stuff.

But, the past years I have been rejecting some friends and people from my life because I've noticed they were not right for me.

Sometimes I feel I might seem antisocial because I don't really have a group to go out and party with just good friends to hang out in a good atmosphere. But not a very party environment. I am afraid that when I meet a boy, he is gonna judge me as serious, boring and antisocial when the truth is I am fun to be with, I am serious yes about so many things but I am funny too and know have to have fun in a healthy way, and I am social, but I am not a party animal social kind of girl you know? I am scared that might scare boys away from me.

I also have a problem with boys getting to talk to me, they've told me I am intimidating!!! and I hate that. Because I am a good, humble, person and I don't feel it's fair for people to see me that way. ¿what can I do?

Sometimes I feel thirsty for party friends just not to feel like a social party outcast, and sometimes boys perceive me as a very good girl. I attract pricks and then they tell me I am too good. I don't get it. And then , they just walk away.

What I am afraid of, is looking antisocial or solitary because really I don't want that. I would hate to be perceived that way and...well..

 

*wink* Hey there!

 

On a serious note, you kinda sound like the female version of me. I wish I could meet a girl like yourself - someone good, but knows how to be social and party.