lovestruck818 Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 No, it's not impossible to improve your figure after 30, 40, or any age! A size 6 isn't anywhere near obese, nor is it even fat, so it sounds like you have some body image issues. Maybe what you're seeing in the mirror isn't so much extra weight as it is flab...meaning, a good weight training program will build up some muscles (which burn more calories than fat), and will give you the toned appearance you're looking for. Add a little cardio, and you'll be healthier and drop the extra fat that may be bothering you in certain trouble areas you might have. It is worth it to exercise for yourself and your health. Go see a dermatologist and ask what they can do to repair some of the scarring on your face. Maybe there are peels or microdermabrasion or something that might help. Maybe if you feel better about how your face looks, you won't feel so discouraged about everything else in your life. It depends on your height! I am 5'1" and at a size 6, I wasn't exactly the skinniest. It also depends on where you carry your weight. Link to post Share on other sites
lovestruck818 Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 Being a size 0 or 00 does not mean you will suddenly be happy, successful and pretty. All that comes from within. quote] I'm going to have to disagree with you on this one. I used to be 40lbs heavier than what I am now, and at 5'1" I should not have been weighing what I was weighing...I looked like an absolute whale. I was not happy with myself b/c i was not getting the attention from guys I wanted to get and i wasn't able to buy the clothes and look the way the skinnier girls did. It wreaked havoc on my self-esteem. When I lost weight, people started noticing me more, commenting on my clothes and people even started treating me nicer and respecting me more at work. As much as it sucks, in some fields these days, thinner people are given more opportunities. I work in television so there is constant pressure to look good, as the camera alone adds 10lbs. Shortly after the weight loss, i was given my first promotion. I'm not saying I was given my promotion b/c I lost weight...but I was definitely a happier more confident person and that showed in the careerworld as well my outside world. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted October 17, 2008 Share Posted October 17, 2008 Being attractive is not about weight, it is about how you feel about yourself - your own personal self confidence. I go to the gym and see girls half my age with not an ounce of fat on them who hide their bodies as if ashamed. I then see women 20+ years older than me who are happy and relaxed in spite of the imperfections in their bodies. IF you are so worried about your body then please be sensible. Go to some class like Weightwatchers (I lost 35 pounds with them over 10 years ago - when I was about your age). Also get to the gym and see a personal trainer - find some exercises you enjoy and tone your body. Sensible eating and sensible exercise is all that is needed. I know I am in better shape now in my forties than I was in my twenties so please do not think you are stuck with what you have. But also please remember that if you have to be "perfect" for a man then he is not the man for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 Oh my goodness, no! Not at all. You're a youngster and my best guess is that you're far harder on yourself than anyone else is or ever would be. I hope that at some point you talk to a counselor about your concerns, self-image, depression and possible eating disorder. It might really help on all counts. As for your "advanced" years and weight loss, when I was 50 I lost about 50 pounds in three months because I wanted/needed to. I kept that weight off for over 10 years but when I quit smoking it crept back up on me. Now I'm losing again, albeit more slowly, but I'm also 62 now, not 50. I watch what I eat and walk at least 10,000 steps a day which for me is a bit over five miles. I do so to, from and in and about work so it's relatively painless and it works in conjunction with sensible and healthy eating. My wife turns 60 at the end of the month and she's walking and losing with me. If a couple of old farts like us can do it, certainly you can! Never say never!!! Link to post Share on other sites
cutegirl Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 I would like to know how a woman my age can lose weight, and how to know if the problem is metabolism, emotions or something phsyiological. I'm not talking about starving myself but I want to look my best, and of course I would feel better about myself. Yes, someone you're age can lose weight Just work out really hard, do intense cardio like 4x a week for 45min to an hr and I mean intense like you are going to die, drenched in sweat... HI INTENSITY, not walking slowly on the tradmill or going 3 mph on the elliptical. and then also lift weights like 3x a week, do that machine that works your ass, do those ones that work your inner and outer thighs, arms, everything! And do a few hundred crunches a day too.... Maybe try this program http://www.beachbody.com/product/fitness_programs/best_sellers/p90x.do I heard it really works but it works because it's hard work and YOU have to do the work... You will be sore and in pain, but if you want to transform your body, that's what it takes. Why would you be too old to lose weight? Female celebs much older than you are toned as hell and have six pack abs. They work at it and endure pain. And watch the diet too. No white bread, no sugar, etc etc lean protein, brown rices, veggies... unless u do p90x, then u will need to eat MORE cause u will burn 600 calories a work out. Link to post Share on other sites
Suiyobi Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 Is it possible to get in shape, and have a nice figure at my age? Or is a knockout figure just something for 15-year-old girls to have? It IS possible to get in shape and lose weight at your age. You just need to have motivation and a strong sense of dedication. Just make sure you're doing all this for yourself, though, and not for others. Link to post Share on other sites
electric_sheep Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 Being attractive is not about weight, it is about how you feel about yourself - your own personal self confidence. ehhh.... that's a bit of an oversimplification. Attraction is relative, of course. For some people attitude may be a really important ingredient of it. Oddly, I actually find myself more attracted to people who are NOT so self-confident. Maybe this is because I've never been terribly self-confident myself. I mean, I really wonder about this whole confidence and self-esteem thing. Do people really find all that confidence and self-esteem attractive, or is this just a myth? Honestly, life can be a tough b*tch, and when I see someone with too much confidence or esteem I think they are just deluding themselves. I think I value caution and realism over unsubstantiated self-confidence! Maybe I'm a weirdo. I have always been skinny though, and I know this may sound shallow, but I've simply never been attracted to women who are overweight. I find myself attracted to cute and slightly chubby, but once a girl is significantly overweight her attitude simply isn't going to make or break the situation. Regardless, I think self-esteem is one of the single most damaging self-help ideas of the last 50 years. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 Regardless, I think self-esteem is one of the single most damaging self-help ideas of the last 50 years. So you think it is better for someone to feel as if they are not worthy of being loved or having a good job or having friends? Self-esteem is not about being over confident. It is about being able to live your life well and in the way you choose. If you cannot respect yourself then how can others respect you? As for self-confidence being key to being attractive, I stand by this. I think most men would agree that they find a woman far more attractive if she is confident and relaxed about her body regardless of imperfections. Link to post Share on other sites
kiss82 Posted December 1, 2008 Share Posted December 1, 2008 Go to this link It's changing my life!http://www.mastercleanser.com/forum/viewforum.php?f=2 Link to post Share on other sites
LavendarGirl Posted December 19, 2008 Share Posted December 19, 2008 Su, losing 10, 15, 20 pounds isn't going to make you feel any different about your career and other parts of your life that's depressing you. It's not going to appreciably change the appearance of your face, it will still be the same YOU smiling or frowning back in the mirror. You are putting in way too much faith in the idea that losing weight will transform your life into something completely different. Now, as far as your best friend telling you he loves his girlfriend more than you. Okay, first you are assuming he loves her more because she's physically more attractive. Perhaps he loves her more because of her personality, their bonding, her interests, whatever... But you see, you made the assumption that it was a competition over looks. Now second, why would it bother you that he loves her more? He's supposed to. Unless you have a crush on him, and the real problem is that he chose her over you. But if that's not the case, you don't have to prop up your self esteem by being the hottest chick in a guy's life in order to be important. Also, you're facing an age hurdle here. You are 29 and afraid what 30 might bring. I remember hitting 30, and it was depressing, like life was as good as it was going to get. Well, take a breath and relax. It's not all that bad. I can break the news to you now that gravity is going to hit the boobs, keeping healthy is a conscious ongoing exercise, and wrinkles will gradually appear in places that were once silky smooth. It's called aging, but it won't happen overnight. But we all face it -- even (shock shock) the men -- and you can't be 15 (or 20 or 29) for the rest of your life. I'm sorry that you feel you need to compensate for the scars on your face by having a drop dead figure. Maybe it's something you can work towards -- getting plastic surgery to minimize the scars? I wish you all the best, and you do need to work on feeling better about yourself. None of us are perfect, honestly. Link to post Share on other sites
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