I need to know how to start conversations with people, especially my girlfriend

[mgr88]

Will someone please tell me some good ways to start conversations with my girlfriend especially and others too. I am very shy and don't really know what to talk about. Please give some advice!!!

[CaterpillarGirl]

Well, my ex-bf had the same problem. I gave him a great book called "Conversationally Speaking" by Alan Garner. My two favorite pieces of advice were: 1) Always smile at the person you're talking to. This puts him/her at ease and gives a good impression. 2) Make an observation about your surroundings that leads to a topic you are comfortable/familiar with such as, "This room is really nice. It reminds me of a place we used to vacation at when I was young. I loved that place. Where did you spend your summers when you were young?", etc. 3) Say what you would want the other person to say to you. i.e. "Those are awesome shoes. Where'd you get them?" or "You look great. What's your secret?" But above all, make it sincere.

 

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