beauty_48 Posted August 23, 2003 Share Posted August 23, 2003 Hi, Last night i had too much drink with my close girl friend. I donno what happended but we kissed and did some touching. I don't know why I did it or we did it. I am totally not attracted to girls or her. I am about to move in with my boy friend. I felt so bad and I can't find a reason why. I don't know if i should blame the drinking. She woke up and pretended she couldn't remember anything. So I went along with it. I felt so yuck!! What do i do? Tell my boy friend what i did? Is it cheating? Help me please.. I couldn't stop thinking about it and its just WRONG! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted August 23, 2003 Share Posted August 23, 2003 Totally forget the incident, forgive yourself, and learn how control your drinking so you are aware of your actions. It's much better you kissed another girl than to have gotten in a car drunk and run over a crowd of people. I guess that's something positive out of all this. Don't even think about this anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
bryanp Posted August 25, 2003 Share Posted August 25, 2003 I have a question for you since you are moving in with your boyfriend. If the roles were reversed, wouldn't you consider this some sort of cheating by your boyfriend and wouldn't you want him to be honest with you? It does not make any difference whether it was with a guy or a girl. You are in a committed relationship and you kissed and touched another person while you were drinking? I think you need to show respect to your boyfriend and tell him what happened just like you would expect him to tell you. You are moving in with him and you have already started withholding information from him that you were kissing and touching another person. Why do you think this is a good thing? Your relationship should be based on trust and honesty or otherwise what is it based on? Think about it. Link to post Share on other sites
beauty_48 Posted August 25, 2003 Share Posted August 25, 2003 You are right! I should tell him what happened and i am going to tell him. I feel so guilty. Thanks for your reply Link to post Share on other sites
bryanp Posted August 25, 2003 Share Posted August 25, 2003 Good for you beauty. Your boyfriend may be a little upset but you will be giving him a message that you are open and truthful in your relationship with him and you expect him to be the same way with you. In addition, you will not be carrying this guilt with you when you move in which should be a very happy and special time for you. I wish you the best and you are certainly doing the right thing. Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted August 25, 2003 Share Posted August 25, 2003 if you tell your bf, chances are he'll be turned on. many men are turned on by lesbian tendencies. if you let him know, i think the best way to present it is as something that made you decided to control your drinking 100%. so you're letting him know that from now on, it's no more than two drinks a night... my 2c, -yes Link to post Share on other sites
lot Posted August 25, 2003 Share Posted August 25, 2003 look the brite side its over and its done with just go on with your life and not make the same mistake i did worring my whole life ok there u have it. Link to post Share on other sites
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