What else can I do to meet guys or find a potential bf?

[renaissancewoman101]

Yes, I really want to know. Right now I am still taking the pottery class since I like it and it's a great stress-reliever. I am also getting more heavily involved in SCA stuff. I'm still trying out fencing, which I like and find very interesting. I have met some people there. I am also going to more weekend tourneys and events and have met even more people there. People now know me and will say "hi" and chat with me when they see me.

 

I've even been nominated to serve in the court of the new baron and baroness of our shire. I was personally asked by the baron and baroness on Sat at an SCA event and I've accepted it. This means I get to meet more people, help out more, and attend more events, as well as be part of a household for a year, which is great.

 

I still haven't made many friends yet. The other friend I had mentioned in previous threads, she's still talking to me and we're still friends. She's still helping me put together some period clothing, so I have more outfits, esp if I am to be part of court. I talk to people, hang out at events, and am probably going to another weekend event this upcoming weekend (although I may just day trip it since I'm not sure about camping this time).

 

Most of the people at these events seem to already have SO's, else they are younger than me (twenties). I am open to people. I chat, ask questions, talk. Not sure what else to do to put myself out there.

 

It is draining though and some days I feel the pull to just avoid life and be by myself.

 

I want to meet someone I can click with. I met my ex at a Ren Faire event and most of the people at these types of events share in something I enjoy too.

 

I just don't know how else to be more "out there".

 

I don't look shabby, although I have not been able to lose weight. I've grown out my hair, esp since after the surgery. I highlight my hair. I don't wear much makeup but I don't dress bad either.

[Disillusioned]

You really want to meet men? Then become a radio ham. I am a 41-yo man who has been a radio ham for 13 years, and believe me, once you start going to ham radio club meetings, you can have your pick of the men because there aren't many women to compete against. If you're a woman who likes to accessorize, there are ham walkie-talkies around which are only as big as a bar of soap.

 

Hope this helps.

"73s," Marty

[konfuzd]

That's awesome that you're getting out there and involved in activities that you can enjoy beyond just trying to meet someone (although it's obviously a part of it).

 

Spend time with the people who are coupled up and young. People know people. If they see your great attitude and get to know you, they may have single friends they could introduce you to.

 

When you go out and can focus on having fun with the people in the moment, you will project your best self, which is what you want a potential mate to see anyhow. When you are "on the prowl", people can sense this, and it can actually act to scare people off (friends or otherwise).

 

I believe in the old cliche that it will happen when you're not looking for it.

 

Good luck, and just have fun!

[renaissancewoman101]

Thanks for the suggestions. I am not sure if being a radio ham is something I would be interested in. Also, what do radio hams do?

 

Konfuzd, when I am out and about doing stuff I enjoy (like SCA things), I'm not out on the prowl. I am chatty and am friendly and yes, I do keep my "eye" open for available guys, but it isn't as though I'm out actively prowling for them. And yes, probably spending time with couples is a good thing since they usually have single friends they can introduce to me.

 

My last ex, I met at an SCA-type of event. I was gutsy that night and went up to talk to him. We exchanged numbers and I joined him and his friends for dinner. I was in a good mood, happy, in my habitat, and, as a result, presented a really positive picture of myself.

[Disillusioned]

Thanks for the suggestions. I am not sure if being a radio ham is something I would be interested in. Also, what do radio hams do?

 

Well, to put it one way... when we had a small earthquake out here a couple months ago, it was just enough to knock out a big chunk of cell phone service, but I was able to talk to my buddy across town on a walkie-talkie with no problem, and we were both on our lunch hour at our jobs. So, the stereotype of the elderly man sitting in front of a ton of big electronic gadgets inside a shack, is pretty outdated. :-)

 

As for traveling... since I got a dictionary-sized ham radio to keep at home, I can switch it on at night and talk to people in Mexico, Canada, Japan, Australia, and all over the western USA without getting onto a plane. You don't need a passport or a security check to use one of these babies! Getting the ham radio license is easy, just look for the Technician Class test book online... it's $14 to take the test, and the license is good for 10 years, without any bills to pay. The General Class license lets you get into talking worldwide. There is even such a thing as ham TV!

 

Most of the men at ham radio club meetings are retirement-age and there will probably be 3 older women for every 20 men, but a lot of the more outdoorsy clubs, like the hams who go on club hikes or bike rides, have more guys in their 20s and 30s. The clubs also do things like potlucks and fundraiser cookoffs, sometimes they get a couple hundred people attending. Plus, you can't beat ham radio for sharpening your communication skills.

 

Konfuzd, when I am out and about doing stuff I enjoy (like SCA things),

 

Wow, do wear armor for SCA events? Maybe it's just me, but I think a woman would look great in armor!

[MN randomguy]

Sounds dumb, but if you're in your 20s or younger make sure you have a facebook page. Its easier to keep track of acquaintances. Everyone has acquaintences and if you spend some time around them some of their acquaintances may become friends. Its all about expanding your network.