Dorms

[kizik]

so the Dorms arn't the ideal location to raise a family?

 

Yeah no, I tried raising my children here but they kept smoking off my bong.

[melodymatters]

I graduated early and went to college at 16 and STILL felt like the dorms were like extended junior high study hall/gossip sessions. Ew.

 

But, age is relative, when i was 16 to 22, most of my friends were in their thirties, now that I'm 42, most of my newer friends tend to be in their 20's early 30's.

 

 

it's coolness, and niceness, and openmindedness I seek primarily.

 

Good for you for moving on, and I really appreciate your kind and appreciative tone in your posts here. Nice to see!

[kizik]

Good for you for moving on, and I really appreciate your kind and appreciative tone in your posts here. Nice to see!

 

Thanks! Unfortunately many people on here think I'm a d*ck, but I'm not - I just try to be direct and not mince words when I give advice.

 

I am now out of the dorms and in a rad apartment. Yay for dissatisfaction and motivation!

[alwayssme]

Well to give you me personal opinion...when I'm at school, I don't look at people who are 24 as they're older than me..I mean yes they are but then again I have friends from all different ages. I wouldn't worry about the age factor if I was you, unless maybe it's the people who are making you feel uncomfortable because they don't match with you in a way? Don't know if I made any sense...lol sorry...hope you meet great people!

[CommitmentPhobe]

It's the GUYS that make me feel weird being here, if only b/c I'm paranoid, but also b/c they have no idea what it's like to be in this scenario as an older DUDE.

 

Yeah guys can be funny about it because they are less mature than girls at that age. This happened to me when I went back to do my postgrad, I got lumped in with a load of youngsters because I applied for accomodation late. Some of the guys felt threatened I think, most of them were cool with it and looked up to me.

 

But the girls loved it, so much so that I ended up sleeping with half of them. Yes I am a bad bad man

[georgehutton]

age is only an issue if you make it one. People usually think that age is an issue because of the other person, but in reality you are projecting your insecurities about your age, and the other person is responding to your insecurities, NOT your age. If you truly don't care, nobody else will.

 

My favorite quote on the subject comes from Satchel Page, the great pitcher of old.

 

"Age is mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter."

 

Work on yourself, and everything else will naturally follow.

[kizik]

Hey George,

 

thanks for the comment. Now that I'm out of the situation, it's clear to see how annoying it was to be around those people, and that truthfully, projection had little to do with it. I was trying to fit in with people who simply did not have the developmental skills as I did - and probably never will. I was thinking to myself - "was I this much of a selfish, rude, immature little pr*ck when I was 19?" And the answer came back - "No f*cking way dude."

 

All I gotta say is that I tried really hard to dig it, but it sucked, and I am sooo glad I got outta there.

 

My advice from experience: no matter how adaptable you think you are - if you're around 100% jerks, chances are nothing's gonna change. You just have to escape. that goes for any number of situations, whether it's friends, girlfriends, etc.

 

It's pretty simple - don't hang around crappy people.