MDog Posted August 24, 2003 Share Posted August 24, 2003 I want to talk to a girl I like but I'm too shy. How can I overcome this? Link to post Share on other sites
Gwen Posted August 24, 2003 Share Posted August 24, 2003 Well im a girl, and i know (since I've had many many crushes!) That the girl is accually looking for you to make the first move! The one thing that irritates me about guys is that they're always so shy! Basically, your not alone! So maybe at a dance, ask her to dance, or just go up to her and ask her out, becasue I know she would be very happy that you MYM!(made your move!) Link to post Share on other sites
PurpleAngel Posted August 24, 2003 Share Posted August 24, 2003 I agree Gwen. Do your thing MDog, don’t be shy, that wont get you anywhere! Just know that it’s ok to approach girls. Don’t be worried! They are expecting it and more often than not are disappointed when a guy is too shy TO ASK so, go for it! Good Luck ~PurpleAngel~ Link to post Share on other sites
Amazon22 Posted August 24, 2003 Share Posted August 24, 2003 Gwen, Don't you think thay maybe you are a little too young to be wrapped up in "guys" yet? When was the last time you went to a friends house for a slumber party? You are way too young to be worrying about guys. Be a kid while you still can. Trust me, when you are my age you will wish you had those days back again. -Haley Ps- MDog, don't be shy, it flatters girls when you approach them...wait how old are you? If you are under 17 then go back to hanging out with your buddies, go play some video games or go ride your bike! Link to post Share on other sites
Gwen Posted August 24, 2003 Share Posted August 24, 2003 omg i am sick of all the age comments! You dont know what kids who are my age! How about you worry about what people are asking and stay away from what doesn't matter! ~Gwen~ Link to post Share on other sites
Author MDog Posted August 25, 2003 Author Share Posted August 25, 2003 She already knows I like her but she doesn't look like she wants anything to do with me. She ingnores me and gives me cold glances even though she is actually really nice. So Gwen I don't think she wants me to make the first move like you said. But I still want to talk to her about this but her friends won't let me get a single minute alone with her. Link to post Share on other sites
tackleboxteddybear Posted August 25, 2003 Share Posted August 25, 2003 GO for it man. If you get the friends line its better than never knowing. Trust me Im in the same ship in these situations &im 23 & still have trouble breaking the ice. Better to get rejected or accepted then to live with regret.You dont want to keep askin yourself what if because that will just put u deeper in the hole. Damn it sucks for us Shy Guys. Just do it get it off your chest youll thank me later. I know how hard it is to come up with the conversation peace & fear looking like a bufoon so just do it the easy way with saying hi & tell her how lovely she looks or ask her somin about almost anything. I need to follow my own advice.LoL Link to post Share on other sites
Jim24 Posted August 28, 2003 Share Posted August 28, 2003 I have a couple suggestions for you. First, the worst that can happen is that her friends will laugh. That will make you both feel awkward (as it did for me and this girl I liked for awhile.) So she probably wont want it anymore than you do. This means the best thing would be to approach her and just say "can I speak to you for a minute" and make it sound like youd want it to be somewhere away from her friends (but dont sound scared). Then make your move. I just want to warn you however, that you shouldnt try to talk to her about this stuff online, thats always a bad thing to do, as people often lie online just to be nice, or people may interpret things differently. Thats my advice for you. Link to post Share on other sites
tackleboxteddybear Posted August 28, 2003 Share Posted August 28, 2003 dont do it online nor over the phone. Do it in person because its more intimate & truethful.OVer the other means its may be easier to say but the awkwardness only increases because of them being easier. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MDog Posted October 24, 2003 Author Share Posted October 24, 2003 Anyone else have something to say? Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted October 25, 2003 Share Posted October 25, 2003 since you stated that she already knows you like her...things wont get any better tahn this...sorry man the fact that she knows, and you try to approach her to get to know her better...she will think you're just trying to hit on her or trying to get to know her better because you have a goal in mind. If she didnt know you liked her, well..it'd be a different story, and it would be easier on you to be able to socialize with her. The only advice i can give is take things slowly, dont rush into anything. Just say "hey, hi, whats up" if you ever see her. Then when she feels more comfortable around you and saying hi, hey back to you...then you can get to know her better by showing interest in her Link to post Share on other sites
Larkinor Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 k theres this girl i been talkin' 2 for a while now on msn she is comeing near where i live ..................................what do i do now? Link to post Share on other sites
Neptune Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 Hey! If all of you think it is tough then try 50 plus. It sucks. but then it is ok because nothing in life matters but life itself anymore. I have seen more people die than if I was in Vietnam. Going to a funeral tommorrow. Excuse me, today. Just go for it! I didn`t. Was always too shy. Life can, and I mean seriously CAN, pass you by:confused: Link to post Share on other sites
Larkinor Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 thanks ur awfully nice:D Link to post Share on other sites
fusangite Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 She already knows I like her but she doesn't look like she wants anything to do with me. She ingnores me and gives me cold glances even though she is actually really nice.That's because she really is nice. She doesn't want to lead you on so she is being cold and ignoring you. That's what a nice girl should do; a mean girl would give you attention and foster your hopes just so she could disappoint you later. So, now it's your turn to be nice. Make it clear that you have accepted her rejection by ceasing to give her unwanted looks, attention, etc. Give her a break; in a couple of months, you should be over this. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruff Ryder Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 Mdog tell me something? Is this a school romance or not? How often do you see this girl? I have on many occasions been shy but i read a few books did some reashearch and the way things turn out is she might not want to talk to you however ATTRACTION is something that is out of her controll. The trick is you have to make her feel attracted to you (and NO you dont have to be brad pitt) The biggest mistake most guys make is that they ARNT them selfs when arround or talking to girls we feel that we have to impress girls by saying and doing thing that are out of character. Picture this 10 girls a day come up to you to pick ypu up but all of them do and act the same how boaring? Maybe it will be fun for a while but after lets say 2 weeks you will never want another girl to approach you not so? Now out of no where comes this girl who is 100% natral BANG there is attraction. So next time you see this girl just be yourself and hey maybe just ignor her for a day or 2 that will set the mood. Then be yourself be causal dont try to impress her keep it natrual. Keep her laughing that is the best if you make her laugh you will stand a far better chance. Give it a bash let me know how it goes. Ive beem in your shoes so just chill and be relaxed. Also keep a bit secrititive about yourself thats always good. Have a good one Ruff Ryder Link to post Share on other sites
Ruff Ryder Posted October 19, 2005 Share Posted October 19, 2005 Mdog tell me something? Is this a school romance or not? How often do you see this girl? I have on many occasions been shy but i read a few books did some reashearch and the way things turn out is she might not want to talk to you however ATTRACTION is something that is out of her controll. The trick is you have to make her feel attracted to you (and NO you dont have to be brad pitt) The biggest mistake most guys make is that they ARNT them selfs when arround or talking to girls we feel that we have to impress girls by saying and doing thing that are out of character. Picture this 10 girls a day come up to you to pick ypu up but all of them do and act the same how boaring? Maybe it will be fun for a while but after lets say 2 weeks you will never want another girl to approach you not so? Now out of no where comes this girl who is 100% natral BANG there is attraction. So next time you see this girl just be yourself and hey maybe just ignor her for a day or 2 that will set the mood. Then be yourself be causal dont try to impress her keep it natrual. Keep her laughing that is the best if you make her laugh you will stand a far better chance. Give it a bash let me know how it goes. Ive beem in your shoes so just chill and be relaxed. Also keep a bit secrititive about yourself thats always good. Have a good one Ruff Ryder Link to post Share on other sites
Winterlord Posted October 20, 2005 Share Posted October 20, 2005 Gwen, Don't you think thay maybe you are a little too young to be wrapped up in "guys" yet? When was the last time you went to a friends house for a slumber party? You are way too young to be worrying about guys. Be a kid while you still can. Trust me, when you are my age you will wish you had those days back again. -Haley Ps- MDog, don't be shy, it flatters girls when you approach them...wait how old are you? If you are under 17 then go back to hanging out with your buddies, go play some video games or go ride your bike! Opening Note: Sorry to drag this up again, but I wish to comment on it. I am getting tired of rampant ageism that is perpetrated against those of us who are young. We'll enjoy our youth in whichever way we please. You're welcome to give you're advice, but don't sound so prejudiced. Link to post Share on other sites
steve_3327 Posted October 24, 2005 Share Posted October 24, 2005 hi all i was running into the same prob not being able to talk to girls for being so shy i was like that through highschool ive been done school since june of 04. so after about 12 attempts on sunday i finally approached her and said hey whats up wanna hang out sometime etc. she said yeah sure. i find once i get the courage to beat the shyness just the one time it gets easier unfortunate for me she looks older then she is. i woulda said 17 but it turned out she is 15 so i dont know whats going to happen with that Link to post Share on other sites
jetwoowoowoo Posted October 30, 2005 Share Posted October 30, 2005 hey, steve i really like your advice, i'm gonna try that out, thanks man Link to post Share on other sites
Lilab Posted November 12, 2005 Share Posted November 12, 2005 I've got a problem similar to this, only Im pretty sure the girl is into me. I see her regularly every morning at school breakfast. I sit with her and a few other guys, those other guys have sometimes flirted with her, and she insults them, but when I do it, she flirts back. We both seem to go out of our way to sit by each other, or talk. And Most importantly to me, I make her laugh alot. In my school is pretty rare that I'd find someone I like so much, so I want to do something about it. I'd ask her out or something, if it weren't for my parents. I'm not so much as shy to ask her out and be embarassed what she'll say, but more of what my family will say. I'm the youngest in my family, and I have a good relationship with my parents, ecspecially my sick mom. I spend alot of time with my mom, who is very sick alot, and I guess I'd feel guilty to go on a date with a girl, and form some kind of relationship, being that it would be my first real girlfriend. So I was just wondering if anyone had some sort of advice? Thanks, Travis Link to post Share on other sites
coogyabc Posted November 12, 2005 Share Posted November 12, 2005 hi well i got a really anooying situation, around feburary i started really liking this girl in my school, shes 1 year younger than me, so after liking her for so long i just went up 2 her and told her i really like her etc, and i think this scored some points but shes got a boyfriend so after many months im now over her but still saying hi etc. BUT shes got a friend and ive never ever said even one word to her, when i see her, her face lights up and she gives me the biggest smiles ever, all of the time and i dont know wether or not to ask her out due to her friend, who i previously had the worst crush on ever.....!!!!! PLZZZZZZ what shud i doooooo Link to post Share on other sites
Sk8erboy3210 Posted November 14, 2005 Share Posted November 14, 2005 There is this girl at school that i like alot.For some reason i cant gather enough courage to go talk to her.Once i thought i had enough courage to talk to her.I said hi to her but it came out...wierd sounding.Now every time im around her i blush and i feel like an idiot.CAN U PLZ HELP ME OUT???!! Link to post Share on other sites
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