Jasmina.S Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 Hi, So i started dating a guy a year and 7 months ago. and in the beginning things were great:) he loved to be with me, i saw him every day, His parents were quite fond of me and my parents liked him. I would do everything i could for him, and what i wanted in return was to be wanted. So then about 8- 10 months in, we started fighting, and i cried alot. He never said he loved me anymore and at one point said that he never had loved me. Oddly, it hurt him to see me cry, and i knew it. He said that maybe i was better off without him, but i couldn't let go... i loved him, i saw the tears in HIS eyes and i knew i wouldn't leave him. 2-3 months later (10 days away from out one year anniversary) he called me while i was away with my family in europe. I was only there for a week, and before the week was up he called me and told me he was leaving me because he was going clubbing and partying and he didn't want a girlfriend holding him back. It hurt... a lot.. jerk... not much else to say except that my best friend spent almost every night with me... ALright, so she convinced me that i was rid of the coward, but a little over 3 months later, he came back. he really had changed... (skipping all the getting back togehter which took about a month) said he'd never take me for granted, he constantly told me he loved me and we were happy again. He was sweet, and loving, took care of me... he told me that when we were apart, the first week was ok, and then it hit him.. and he missed me so much. and that he looked for other girls, but no girl was good enough. his parents even told me (while he was away) that he would off handedly complain that other girls are just "stupid" and he couldn't talk to them...He would hug me and hold me... and when i was upset over stupid things that he should tell me to grow up over, he would hug me and say that he doesn't care why im upset, just the fact that im upset is what he hates. I even got a beautiful ring (not engagement:) ) Now again, with the start of school, he's starting to be distant and its been 5 months since we got back together... the "i love you"s get rarer and some days go without a phone call or a text. we talked about marriage a few weeks ago... he would always bring it up, saying he wants to marry me... but now he hardly mentions it. Some days he's still cheery, calls me cute, kisses me... but other days i just don't know what to think... He attends university, as do i, and his program is very difficult. He has many midterms right now, and he studies constantly... should i be worrying? any thoughts? THe problems usually start around midterms... is there anything i can do? is it me? will he leave me again? Link to post Share on other sites
Ponderosa Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 You seem to be young, and life is too short to spend it with someone who you're not sure truly loves you. There are far too many fish in the sea. SOme people never change. And sometimes you have to just realize that. I wish you the best of luck in finding someone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jasmina.S Posted October 9, 2008 Author Share Posted October 9, 2008 Thanks for the input, and yes... I am pretty young:) and i constantly feel like a stupid and young-in-love girl. instead of being mature and making realistic choices. but i guess people learn to be mature from their experiences and i just haven't gotten my share yet... Link to post Share on other sites
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