allina Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 I've noticed a trend recently, women hoping to get an engagement ring for their birthday, for Christmas etc. I have never heard of this until recently and in my opinion it's very silly/weird. Now I'm not knocking anyone who may want this, and LB I know you mentioned this, I'm not directing my post at you. I just think it's very odd. Before LS the one time I heard of engagement being used as a holiday gift was when my co-worker got engaged on her birthday. She came in excited and said "look at my birthday gift!" Now it seems like a lot of women hope to get engaged on their next birthday, Christmas, or whatever holiday. I understand getting engaged on a day that's special for the couple but I definitely wouldn't want an engagement ring for a birthday gift! Isn't an engagement ring supposed to represent asking a woman's hand in marriage? Asking her to be your wife? Why is this suddenly something women want to find under the tree? It cheapens the idea to me, makes it feel like just another material *thing* women want. Wanting to get engaged over the holidays is one thing but asking for an engagement ring for Christmas is quite another. Link to post Share on other sites
Krisa Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 im in total agreement with you! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 While I've never been proposed to on a holiday or special occasion, I don't see it as a big deal. Makes it easier for people to remember their anniversary, if they're so inclined. Yes, I've forgotten a few too. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 I know your thread isn't directed at me but I will respond still. What I meant by "Christmas" was just over the holidays. I actually don't think my boyfriend would propose on Christmas or my birthday because he'd think it wouldn't be as good of a suprise. I'd rather him just do it on some random day and shock me out of my mind!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author allina Posted October 12, 2008 Author Share Posted October 12, 2008 im in total agreement with you! And a huge Congrats to you and your new hubby! While I've never been proposed to on a holiday or special occasion, I don't see it as a big deal. Makes it easier for people to remember their anniversary, if they're so inclined. Yes, I've forgotten a few too. Not a big deal but odd in my opinion. But how would proposing on a birthday help someone remember their anniversary? Do people celebrate their engagement anniversary? I know your thread isn't directed at me but I will respond still. What I meant by "Christmas" was just over the holidays. I actually don't think my boyfriend would propose on Christmas or my birthday because he'd think it wouldn't be as good of a suprise. I'd rather him just do it on some random day and shock me out of my mind!!! You response is always welcome, I only mentioned that it wasn't directed at you so your wouldn't feel like I was jumping on or insulting something you said I think a random day is best, plus isn't proposing on a birthday doubling up and kinda cheating? Link to post Share on other sites
pretty professional Posted October 12, 2008 Share Posted October 12, 2008 I think you're overthinking it. Getting engaged on a holiday or birthday is a wonderful gift to both of you. It would make a special day even more special. But of course you are thinking you're this hip PC girl and judging others for what works for them, oh well, think what you want. I guess if your guy proposes on a holiday or your birthday, you should say "no" because you aren't compatible fundamentally! Link to post Share on other sites
Author allina Posted October 12, 2008 Author Share Posted October 12, 2008 But of course you are thinking you're this hip PC girl and judging others for what works for them, oh well, think what you want. What??? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 12, 2008 Share Posted October 12, 2008 Not a big deal but odd in my opinion. But how would proposing on a birthday help someone remember their anniversary? Do people celebrate their engagement anniversary? Clock a year and it's the wedding day, although I can't imagine getting married on Christmas Day. I guess I don't see Bdays as that big a deal. Gifts themselves also don't mean much to me, although they're nice to get. Link to post Share on other sites
keechie Posted October 13, 2008 Share Posted October 13, 2008 i have to agree with the idea that finding a ring under the tree cheapens the whole idea and makes for just another "material thing". that said, i do think that proposals on new year's can be pretty romantic. maybe it's because most people traditionally don't really expect to recieve gifts on new year's, and deciding to spend your lives together at the start of a new year can be very symbolic for new beginnings. Link to post Share on other sites
IfWishesWereHorses Posted October 13, 2008 Share Posted October 13, 2008 I was proposed to on Christmas Eve and loved it, it was quite magical acutally! That wasn't considered my Christmas gift but it made the proposal very special to me. That was 24-25 years ago. I don't see how being proposed to on a holiday makes it materialistic at all! Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 13, 2008 Share Posted October 13, 2008 I've noticed a trend recently, women hoping to get an engagement ring for their birthday, for Christmas etc. I have never heard of this until recently and in my opinion it's very silly/weird. Now I'm not knocking anyone who may want this, and LB I know you mentioned this, I'm not directing my post at you. I just think it's very odd. Before LS the one time I heard of engagement being used as a holiday gift was when my co-worker got engaged on her birthday. She came in excited and said "look at my birthday gift!" Now it seems like a lot of women hope to get engaged on their next birthday, Christmas, or whatever holiday. I understand getting engaged on a day that's special for the couple but I definitely wouldn't want an engagement ring for a birthday gift! Isn't an engagement ring supposed to represent asking a woman's hand in marriage? Asking her to be your wife? Why is this suddenly something women want to find under the tree? It cheapens the idea to me, makes it feel like just another material *thing* women want. Wanting to get engaged over the holidays is one thing but asking for an engagement ring for Christmas is quite another. Agreed. Something like that should be a nice surprise. At least that is how I would want it if I were a woman. One of my best friends recently became engaged and she knew about the ring for months. She picked it out and her fiance made the monthly payments. She knew when he had made the last payment. The only surprise was when he actually did the proposal. Link to post Share on other sites
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