Vixen763 Posted October 12, 2008 Share Posted October 12, 2008 The last time i was on this forum was march 2008. Then i was struggling with dealing with a strong relationship of christian woman and muslim man. We spent a one month holiday together and i would get up and go to church on sunday while he lay in bed. But fridays he never went to the mosque. I felt the gap between us. It was difficult to pray before meals and before bed. Much as i love him, i begin to feel this might never be possible. We have been on a long distance relationship for one year now. Does anyone feel like i do now? I am Born again (pentecoastal) and all my family is. my boyfriend and i initially thought we could do a civil wedding and try to make life for us with our different religions but its now wieghing heavy on me ever since our holiday together in August Link to post Share on other sites
DealingWDrama Posted November 20, 2008 Share Posted November 20, 2008 I know you posted this a month ago, but I have to give you a little insight. As a Christian who would be marrying a nonChristian - it is your responsibility as the Christian to continue to live a life of example and not to discontinue serving the Lord. There is a book in the Bible that talks about people who are married to nonbelievers....I can't think of it right now - but this is the advice given in scripture. Link to post Share on other sites
disgracian Posted November 21, 2008 Share Posted November 21, 2008 My answer stays the same: if your intention is that he convert to your religion or vica versa, then call it off. You either accept each other the way you both are right now, or you're not meant for each other. Cheers, D. Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted November 21, 2008 Share Posted November 21, 2008 I don't know if you know this, but as a Moslem, he will expect you to convert to Islam to marry him. For a moslem to convert to Christianity (or any other faith)) is to ask for and expect a death sentence. he will not marry you, (or his family will not permit it) unless you agree to convert. Any marriage of a moslem to a non moslem is not recognised. Link to post Share on other sites
disgracian Posted November 22, 2008 Share Posted November 22, 2008 It's not quite so clear-cut. I think we have been so conditioned to perceiving all Muslims as fundamentalists that we forget there are also "weekend" Muslims as well. Case in point, I know somebody who recently married a Muslim girl and while they both went through the motions at the wedding ceremony, he is as he puts it "about as good a Muslim as I ever was a Catholic". In other words, in name only. They're both fine with that. Cheers, D. Link to post Share on other sites
Brimstone_Angel Posted November 22, 2008 Share Posted November 22, 2008 1 Corinthians 7:12-17 (King James Version) 12: But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 13And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 14: For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. 15: But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. 16: For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife? 17: But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches. It is advised that a man and a woman of the faith should not be unequally yoked by someone with someone not of the faith. However, God bring those into our lives sometimes which might not make since. Or sometimes we on our own choose who we decide who to marry. Knowing their spiritual state, we that those consequences. Just because one of the spouses is a non-believer does not mean they should get divorced and it definitely does not mean the believer is to drop their faith. For people come to the Lord not by what we say, but the example we live by in accordance to the words we say. There have been many a story that one spouse was not of the faith and through being with their spouse and finding the faith on their own, the unsaved spouse became saved. Link to post Share on other sites
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted November 22, 2008 Share Posted November 22, 2008 I don't know if you know this, but as a Moslem, he will expect you to convert to Islam to marry him. I don't know if you know this, but as a *~*REAL*~* (AKA MOOSE APPROVED) Christian, you will have to convert him to Christianity to marry him. Sorry, it's just the law. I agree with disgracian's first post. Link to post Share on other sites
JooLee Posted December 2, 2008 Share Posted December 2, 2008 I don't know if you know this, but as a Moslem, he will expect you to convert to Islam to marry him. For a moslem to convert to Christianity (or any other faith)) is to ask for and expect a death sentence. he will not marry you, (or his family will not permit it) unless you agree to convert. Any marriage of a moslem to a non moslem is not recognised. that is not entirely true. a Muslim MAN is allowed to marry someone from a different religion,without her converting, but their children has to follow the religion of their father. Link to post Share on other sites
MN randomguy Posted December 3, 2008 Share Posted December 3, 2008 First of all, If he doesn't go to the mosque and is bedding down with a non-Muslim woman you have to acknowledge that he's not THAT Muslim. What is his family like? Have it planned how your marriage is going to work. You're not going to convert anyone. Understand that REALLY understand that. How are you going to raise your kids. I'm pretty skeptical of this. My dad was Catholic, Mom was Baptist. Mom's parents were hardcore, didn't recognize the Catholic church as Christian. Mom didn't take it too seriously when she was young. For the first couple of years they went to Catholic church. Mom found a non-denominational church, got into it. Took us kids. Dad quit going to church. Us kids grew up confused, never really belonging to either world. If you come from different backgrounds and are going to be secular CEO (Chritmas and Easter Only) christian and kinda muslimy guy. Then yeah, the religion of you ancestors makes no more difference than what continent they lived on or the color of their skin. But, if you're going to live your lives under different premises I don't think its going to work. Link to post Share on other sites
taiko Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 that is not entirely true. a Muslim MAN is allowed to marry someone from a different religion,without her converting, but their children has to follow the religion of their father. I thought the woman had to be 'of the book' in other words a caste Christian or Jew. The Muslim woman is not allowed to marry a Christian or Jew because the man is seen as the spiritual leader of the house and it is expected that she would eventually convert and become an apostate to Islam. Link to post Share on other sites
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