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need to talk to someone. NOW! am in lots of pain.


radhi

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what do you do when you can't reach someone?

when you love someone who has hurt you terribly.?

 

how do you go on?

 

even now I am talking to myself.

lost, confused and angry.

she cheated on me!!!!! how could she?

 

we had so much between us!

 

she broke it all!

 

sigh, tears. big lump in my chest. heavy. not good not good at all!

 

no-one to talk to.

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I am in pain still. I try to go on with my life. but unable to

she sent me a message that she will contact me when she gets back to europe the 17th

Howeverm i lost control.

I read her e-mail and she has gone back to her lover in africa. enjoys it.

This hurts.

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I tried. I know itis chldish and stupid. But I feel soo neglected and lost.

She didn't contact me. Nor e-mailed me. now she is writing long mails to a friend telling she's back. she likes him more and more. enjoying without thinking opf future

 

what must i do. it is 3.00 am here and i can't sleep again

 

 

This pain is not spreaded but a lump that Takes me down.

 

stomach ache.

 

am i being unfair?

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Bro, all you can do is try to move on.... I'm in the same situation as you. It's fricken 3:20 am and I can't sleep because I'm up thinking about my ex. She dumped me 5 months ago and still has control over me (because I allow this to STILL affect me). We just have to let it go. I feel your pain man. It'll get better

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while I am sitting here miserable, she's enjoying herself in his arms in africa. ******* has a fiance also.

 

bunch of cheaters

sorry for language. am bit upset

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wmast, it doesn't to me.

just kills me

slowly

 

my thing happend last week monday (i was told about affaire)

 

Cant let it kill you bro. Looks at the beauty in life. Forget her. She played you, mine played me... We dont want people like that in our lives. Look, just look at all the beauty around you. Look at all of your blessings. I assume you still have 2 arms, two legs, food, shelter, etc... Many people don't have those luxuries. When I get sad, I think of those who are unloved and smile at the fact that I am loved by family and friends and was even loved by my ex at one point. Good luck to ya!

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For anyone who cheats on you twice - it's game over. This girl doesn't deserve any more chances. You need to wake up to what her character really is, which became highly suspect when she cheated the first time but you seem to want to ignore all of this. She likes to play people, hon. No matter how sincere it all feels, she lives a moral-free zone and she gets her kicks out of stringing men along.

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i miss her so much and it hurts

my girlfriend of 7 years went to africa and cheated on me

 

I know it hurts. But you need to look at it this way. She is a cheater. She is worthless. She is someone you shouldn't want.

 

I too was devestated just like you when my xW cheated. But that desperation soon turned into anger when the fog lifted and I came to the realization, she isn't someone I want to be with. She is someone I can't trust.

 

I know you probably think she is the only girl on the planet and she is the best you can get. It just aint so. There are millions of women out there and there is one just as good as her, for whatever qualities you do like about her(i'm guessing superficial qualities), if not better that will treat you with the fidelity and respect you deserve.

 

She isn't worth your tears. So stand up, take a deep breath and consider it a blessing that you found out what kind of untrustworthy person she is.

 

Get out there and date. To hell with her.

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thanx folks, am on tranquilizers to handle my emotions. m very sensitive on this subject.

 

latest news is that she keeps stalling to go back to europe.( will arrive tomorrow. first it was to be 13th, then 17th, now 21st) Last weekend she sent me a mail saying;" I am staying a bit longer for a traditional wedding. I hope you haven't decided to break contact with me and we can talk on skype when i'm back. I think of you everyday and want to let you know that I care very very much about you. I know that words are empty shells of you don't handle to them. I feel terrible and guilty for my deeds but also know that this is no comfort to you. Thats why I find it so hard to say something. i have the feeling that everything is say only makes it worse..."

 

This is so confusing for me and makes me doubt things.

 

I know just 4 hours after she sent me this message she sent her 'lover' a mail saying she enjoyed all the time together and wished he'd be by her side at the wedding. she loved spending time with him. talking, eating, lying next to him, feeling him, touching him.

 

These things make me very angry and upset. what the hell does she want from me?

 

 

It is so hard to just undo 7 years of affection. at least on my side. tomorrow i am going to talk to a proffesional. Need to find a way to deal with this.

 

 

It is extreemly hard. extreemly hard. dread the talk and the things to be said.

 

To be honest, I like her to beg for forgiveness and we'd find a way to work things out. However I don't expect her to do so, nor to break communications with him. I have no trust in her nowand there are lots of issues to work through.

 

sigh!

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