KismetGirl Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 Wow. Even if I hadn't seen my MM in ten years I dont think he'd want me to meet his W. Women ALWAYS know. She'd meet me, see the tension between us, and know in two seconds her husband's been shagging me for four years. Link to post Share on other sites
LoyalGirl Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 I guess I see it from a different perspective... I think the wife wants to meet you. One of the ways to kill an EA is to bring it into the light, and the wife knows this. I wanted to meet my H's EA OW. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sigh Posted October 15, 2008 Author Share Posted October 15, 2008 No, she's not pregnant. I am bisexual, she just announced she is now apparently bisexual, so yeah, I'm thinking this is his idea. I could be wrong, these 2 incidents could be completely unrelated Link to post Share on other sites
signedin2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 No, she's not pregnant. I am bisexual, she just announced she is now apparently bisexual, so yeah, I'm thinking this is his idea. I could be wrong, these 2 incidents could be completely unrelated This is so messed up, in so many ways. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sigh Posted October 15, 2008 Author Share Posted October 15, 2008 This is so messed up, in so many ways. I'm aware that right now I'm messed up which is why I'm getting myself out and looking for support. Thank you for pointing that out to me though. Link to post Share on other sites
signedin2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 I'm aware that right now I'm messed up which is why I'm getting myself out and looking for support. Thank you for pointing that out to me though. You're welcome. So, what are you going to do about your bi-sexuality? Are you ever going to be happy with one gender in the long run? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sigh Posted October 15, 2008 Author Share Posted October 15, 2008 You're welcome. So, what are you going to do about your bi-sexuality? Are you ever going to be happy with one gender in the long run? My sexual preferences are not why I am here. That hasn't hurt anyone. The A and what I've done there and helping myself get through the aftermath, guilt and pain of it is why I'm here. That is just the latest part of the story, which may not even be related, but that's what I was told. Link to post Share on other sites
signedin2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 My sexual preferences are not why I am here. That hasn't hurt anyone. The A and what I've done there and helping myself get through the aftermath, guilt and pain of it is why I'm here. That is just the latest part of the story, which may not even be related, but that's what I was told. Maybe it's all related. Your sexual preferences, participation in cheating, low selfesteem, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sigh Posted October 16, 2008 Author Share Posted October 16, 2008 Maybe it's all related. Your sexual preferences, participation in cheating, low selfesteem, etc. I don't plan on doing anything about my sexuality. I am who I am. Bisexuality has absolutely nothing to do with my self esteem, FYI. Having an affair with a MM for a year probably does, but not my sexuality. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 No, she's not pregnant. I am bisexual, she just announced she is now apparently bisexual, so yeah, I'm thinking this is his idea. I could be wrong, these 2 incidents could be completely unrelated So he obviously has told her that you're bi-sexual? Yeah you need to run from this situation, it'll do alot of damage. Link to post Share on other sites
infatuationoftheday Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 Sounds like he's playing some kind of game. I wouldn't want to meet the wife, that sounds really awkward. Forget him, that kind of mind game is just unattractive. If you weren't over him before, knowing he's capable of messing with people like this should hopefully make it easier to get over him now.. I know this sucks, sorry it hurts you but there are plenty of other people out there who won't try to f with your life like that. Link to post Share on other sites
xxxheartbrokenxxx Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 Maybe it's all related. Your sexual preferences, participation in cheating, low selfesteem, etc. You can see this OW is in alot of pain & she has come to LS to ask for help so why are you having a dig about the fact shes bisexual?It has nothing to do with why shes here, OK it may have something to do with why her xMM wants her to meet his W so he can gratify himself by having 2 woman at once but seriously? Shes bisexual - so what?! What has that got to do with low self esteem? Her orientation does not matter, its so shallow to make a judgement about her situation based on her sexual preference, theres nothing wrong with being bi, straight or gay period! Link to post Share on other sites
Author sigh Posted October 16, 2008 Author Share Posted October 16, 2008 So he obviously has told her that you're bi-sexual? Yeah you need to run from this situation, it'll do alot of damage. I have no idea what he's told her and don't plan on responding to him to find out. Maybe the 2 things are not related. Could he actually think he could get his W and me in a 3some? Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted October 17, 2008 Share Posted October 17, 2008 Considering that this is one of the most common fantasies for most men...I'd consider it highly likely that this is EXACTLY what he's hoping. He's probably also hoping that this will "legitimize" his relationship with you somewhat to his wife, too. If the both of them are "with" you...then its ok, right? We've had other posters here recently talk about polyamorous relationships...I'd bet you a donut that he's hoping that this turns into something right along those lines. He wants you BOTH. And this is one way that he's working to balance that. And meet a fantasy at the same time. Bottom line. Link to post Share on other sites
KATANYA Posted October 17, 2008 Share Posted October 17, 2008 Poetic justice on the cheating MM if the OW hooks up with the BS and W leaves him for her..........sorry, but it would be the one time where the BS and the OW both find someone better and the MM is left cold:rolleyes: Honestly, I think the MM has told his W that his 'friend' is a lesbian or bisexual to ease the worry of explaining how and why he has a woman 'friend'. He no doubt felt that this would alleviate any worries about the suspicion of an affair. I now my MM had eluded to that several years ago to his W and I know of other MM who have done similar things...... As far as W being bi I dont' feel it would be rational to think that she wants her husband to hook her up with his friend.....I would think MM's ego would be taking a serious beating right now wondering why he isn't 'enough' for his wife. And MM usually dont like to be replaced by another man much less another woman! I think this is a game for MM and a way for him to try to control both OW and W.....his world sounds like its spiralling out of control. Stay away from both of them is my advice and continue as you have been - moving on with your life. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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