You'reasian Posted November 26, 2008 Share Posted November 26, 2008 Good luck to you! Australian women are cool. You won't have a problem meeting and attracting men whom are like you, especially in a college town or big city. Link to post Share on other sites
Capricciosa Posted November 26, 2008 Share Posted November 26, 2008 Most relationships are ruined for women because of their love of novels. Madame Bovary suffered from this too. (And not only do I read novels, but I write them, which makes my grasp of what a real relationship is about even more screwed up!) Link to post Share on other sites
Miranda1 Posted November 27, 2008 Share Posted November 27, 2008 Good luck to you! Australian women are cool. You won't have a problem meeting and attracting men whom are like you' date=' especially in a college town or big city.[/quote'] Thanks! There's a massive man drought in Australia - it's like they all move overseas from the age of 20, usually to the UK! Link to post Share on other sites
Miranda1 Posted November 27, 2008 Share Posted November 27, 2008 Most relationships are ruined for women because of their love of novels. Madame Bovary suffered from this too. (And not only do I read novels, but I write them, which makes my grasp of what a real relationship is about even more screwed up!) Haha, that's so true! We want our romances to be like a novel, but it doesn't work that way. I felt like telling Lizzie, "Don't be so cruel to Darcy!" Oh, are you a published author? I'd love to write novels one day! I'm doing elective subjects in Literary Studies next year. Link to post Share on other sites
Capricciosa Posted November 27, 2008 Share Posted November 27, 2008 Haha, that's so true! We want our romances to be like a novel, but it doesn't work that way. I felt like telling Lizzie, "Don't be so cruel to Darcy!" Oh, are you a published author? I'd love to write novels one day! I'm doing elective subjects in Literary Studies next year. Indeed I am. Write a lot about messed up relationships, actually. I'm endeavoring to write a happy ending, but it doesn't come naturally to me. Art imitating life or vice versa? Link to post Share on other sites
Isolde Posted November 29, 2008 Share Posted November 29, 2008 This is the beauty of being a woman. You don't have to date everyone who shows interest. Neither do men. *shrugs* Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 29, 2008 Share Posted November 29, 2008 Neither do men. *shrugs* Men pursue, many times more than one woman at the same time. Women accept the man/men she wants. I'm glad to be a woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Angel1111 Posted November 29, 2008 Share Posted November 29, 2008 I think the reason so many marriages end in divorce is because people aren't picky enough. If someone doesn't resonate with you, there's a problem. Keep listening to your instincts. P.S. Maybe a person can't read too many Jane Austin novels, but it is possible to watch too many Jane Austin movies. hee! hee! (I'm not a fan. Sorry. I think I have a missing gene or something.) Link to post Share on other sites
orangehose Posted November 29, 2008 Share Posted November 29, 2008 Men pursue, many times more than one woman at the same time. Women accept the man/men she wants. I'm glad to be a woman. If you're receiving many good offers, it's good to be a woman. Otherwise, not particularly. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 29, 2008 Share Posted November 29, 2008 If you're receiving many good offers, it's good to be a woman. Otherwise, not particularly. Are you making opportunities for yourself? Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted November 29, 2008 Share Posted November 29, 2008 Men pursue, many times more than one woman at the same time. Women accept the man/men she wants. I'm glad to be a woman. I'm glad to be a man way more adventures and the power is intoxicating Link to post Share on other sites
Cat66 Posted November 29, 2008 Share Posted November 29, 2008 I went through this for years. There is really nothing you can do. The one who leaves your head spinning and in shock that you still have a pulse will come when you least expect it. Dont settle because then you might miss out on the one that really excites you Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 29, 2008 Share Posted November 29, 2008 I'm glad to be a man way more adventures and the power is intoxicating You go KMT! Every person has their personal needs. Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted November 29, 2008 Share Posted November 29, 2008 Kamille, It is my opinion/philosophy of life, that timing is extremely important ! It's a combo of meeting someone who fills most of your "love needs", coupled with where you are in your mind, heart, life and soul. I know a couple of the people that became extremely important to me, only happneded because I was open and ready for a full, real, 100% relationship. If I had met them at different times, it might have turned out way differently. And of course, if I found out ways that we were incompatible that could not have been overcome, they would have been " three month-ers'" only. Me thinks, that you are not in a place in your heart yet where you are really and truly ready to give, love and share 100% of yourself and that is OK !!! keep doing your thing girl, and one day, you'll meet not "the one", but one of the great ones, AND you'll be revving to go in the arena of love. good luck sweetie !!! Link to post Share on other sites
Anastasia0309 Posted December 3, 2008 Share Posted December 3, 2008 Ugh! I'm sooo glad I read this thread! I was just having the "Am I to picky" conversation last night with my cousin and her boyfriend. I truely don't think in my heart that I am and after reading this thread I totally think I'm just not going to settle! I too love the slow getting to know the person! Which not many men are about. It's soo good to hear others say they too are going through it. I'm 24 and haven't came upon anyone that is able to keep my attention long enough. I also am not really looking. Just living and if it happens then great and if not well to be honest I'm kinda fearing the if not. I don't know what I would do or feel if it doesn't happen but I do know I could handle whatever happens! Thank you for starting this thread. It has helped me so much! Your a amazing, strong and independent women! Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted December 3, 2008 Share Posted December 3, 2008 hee! hee! (I'm not a fan. Sorry. I think I have a missing gene or something.) Left it at the dry cleaners. Link to post Share on other sites
Rebellious Posted December 4, 2008 Share Posted December 4, 2008 Hi Kamille, I wish I had an answer for you but unfortunately I have been going through something similar. When I was out furiously dating, oh, let's say three, four years ago, I couldn't find a man who combined all the qualities I needed to take that huge leap of faith. There were many men who wanted a relationship with me but I would always find them lacking somehow. Perhaps my expectations were too high. Settling was of the question and so eventually I got so fed up and exhausted that I stopped dating completely. I am no longer willing to kiss a million frogs to find what I am looking for. In fact, I have stopped searching. My thinking today is if it is to happen, it will of it's own accord without any coaxing from me. How is it gonna happen if you stay in your room with your legs unshaved? . Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kamille Posted December 4, 2008 Author Share Posted December 4, 2008 Thanks everyone for your input - and especially for making me realize I'm not abnormal. Perhaps perhaps perhaps I am too picky, but the fact is, I'm pretty happy with my life as it is. Rebellious, are you assuming that women only go out or shave to please men? What an ornamental take on women. I agree with Marlena that since I love my life and the activities I engage in, someone who is going to rock my world is likely to eventually cross my path. Believe it or not, that doesn't stop me from loving taking good esthetic care of myself because I do it first and foremost to pamper myself, not to be esthetically pleasing to men. Anastasia, you're 24. I'm 32. I think it's definitely way too early for you to consider settling. It doesn't mean not giving guys chances. I do. It just means making sure whoever comes into our lives makes it better. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 Thanks everyone for your input - and especially for making me realize I'm not abnormal. Perhaps perhaps perhaps I am too picky, but the fact is, I'm pretty happy with my life as it is. Your welcome but your use of input differs from my own. Boy would I like to complicate your life if I ever get the chance Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kamille Posted December 11, 2008 Author Share Posted December 11, 2008 Your welcome but your use of input differs from my own. Boy would I like to complicate your life if I ever get the chance and make me some pizza? sounds good to me. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Jam Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 Should I just not be dating right now (which was originally the plan anyways!)? I think this is more the answer. Judging by your words, I don't think you're as picky as you might think you are, but are more AFRAID to get close to a guy. I had a friend from another state ramble on and on to me about how she wishes she could find a decent man to marry and such, but recently confessed to me that she's scared to get close to men. A lot of it was because her father growing up was a horrible man to her and her mom (funny how many messed up kids come from bad parents). When she's alone with no options, she'll want to find someone...but when she finds a possibility, fear sets in and she runs. Kamille, I could be totally off, but I think you're more scared than you are picky. Picky insinuates that you have in your mind a picture of the ideal male for you, or something near it...but no one who comes along fits the bill. It also becomes "picky" when the standards you want in someone cannot be filled by anyone or very very few people. It's ok to reject guys you're not attracted to...but look inside yourself and make sure it's a case of "he's not what I want" rather than just plain fear of getting close to someone. Link to post Share on other sites
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