Jer1977 Posted August 25, 2003 Share Posted August 25, 2003 If anyone can offer me any kind of advice I would appreciate it greatly... My girlfriend of the past two years and I have been on a rollercoster for the past 6 months. She broke up with me 6 months ago because she felt she needed to see what else was out there and previously to me she was in a relationship for 5 years. (she is 22 and I am 25) That was hard enough for me and her living across the street did not make it any easier. I thought to myself nobody is going to treat her better than I do and she knows it, so she will get burned and come back eventually. About a month went by and she started calling me all of a sudden telling me that she missed me, etc... We started being friends again and eventually one thing led to another. Only this time things were a little different. It was like everything between us had to be a secret and she did not want anyone to know. Then things started getting back to normal and I thought that everything was gonna be fine. Then she freaked out again and for the past two weeks she has not spoken to me. I along with her family (her brother and sister are 2 of my closest friends which I am sure does not help the matter) believe she does have a problem and that she should go talk to someone to get help. Whether it is bi-polar or depression I don't know but I do know she is the only one her can help herself. She is the sweetest person and loves me one day and the next you get someone you don't even recognize and she wants nothing to do with me. My head is spinning this is so confusing to me... it was 3 weeks ago she looked in my eyes and told me I was the person she wanted to be with and now won't speak to me. A lot of people ask me why I am wasting my time but my feelings for this girl are so strong and knowing she needs help... I just can't forget about her. (and I am trying my hardest not to call her or even bump into her leaving my house...but I know as soon as she calls, if she calls, I will have a hard time ignoring it and not pick it up) I just don't know if next time she comes back into my life and things happen again if it is for real. I can go on forever about this so I am going to shut up now. If you want any more info. or stories just ask, I have plenty...Any advice would be great. Thanks for your time. Link to post Share on other sites
sexi Posted August 25, 2003 Share Posted August 25, 2003 Hey Well Im sure it is hard to just move on and 4get about her. But i think thats what you should do for a while as hard as it may seem. Try not being the one that always wants to get back. If she doesnt talk 2 you for weeks, then dont try to talk to her either. Maybe then she'll realize how much she misses you. If not, i guess only she knows whats going on in her mind. Try sitting her down and talking it out. Try asking her what her honest reasons are for leaving and then coming back after a while. As for the part when u said that she didnt want anyone to know...to be quite honest, the only thing i can think of is if she has someone else in her life so she doesnt want that person finding out. Or it does not necessarily have to be another lover but just someone that she doesnt want to know about the 2 of you. Hope that helped Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jer1977 Posted August 25, 2003 Author Share Posted August 25, 2003 Thanks for the reply. It is hard but I feel the only thing I can do is just stay away and like you said maybe she will open her eyes. As for her reasons for coming back after a while, I don't know what her answer would be...she really has me confused. Finally, for her not wanting anyone to know...I am almost 100% certain she was not seeing anyone else in the past two months we have been together. I just say that because almost every night we have been together. Normally I would run right back to her if she called me or came over but I honestly want to try to stay away...tough love I guess. I just hope when and if she calls I can do that. Thanks again. Link to post Share on other sites
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