Amy Posted October 30, 1998 Share Posted October 30, 1998 Ok here is the deal...in the last 4 months i've been in and out of 5 or 6 relationships not to mention a few guys that i just dated once or twice. Here is the problem...all of these guys ended up being jerks in the long run! I don't know what the deal is! It's driving me crazy! I 'm a really nice and interesting person i've always thought..i have tons of guy friends. I get along with pretty much everyone. I just can't seem to find a decent guy. I'm beggining to wonder if i'm not doing something wrong? There has to be some decent guys left out there? Right? Help...what can i do... Link to post Share on other sites
JUSTAGUY Posted October 30, 1998 Share Posted October 30, 1998 Amy, You said you've been through 5 or 6 relationships in 4 months. Well, it often takes that long (or longer!) to DEVELOP *1* relationship. Those WEREN'T relationships; I would put those in the "fling" or "infatuation" category if anything. There really isn't enough information to know what you may be doing "wrong." But whatever it is, obviously you are repeating it. A *few* possibilities are: 1.) You have a dependency issue where you feel you have to have a guy to be happy; 2.) You simply are drawn to the wrong type of guys (think really hard about the personality traits that you are attracted to and re-evaluate them); or 3.) You have unrealistic expectations and/or make unreasonable demands. There are other possible "causes" but these are a few of the most common. Only you can really figure this one out--although you can certainly get some insight from family and friends. In fact, in some ways they may see your picture more clearly than you do. Time to slow down and re-evaluate. Put some other things into your life instead of just the pursuit of guys--don't let your world revolve around that. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Lilly Posted October 31, 1998 Share Posted October 31, 1998 Ok here is the deal...in the last 4 months i've been in and out of 5 or 6 relationships not to mention a few guys that i just dated once or twice. Here is the problem...all of these guys ended up being jerks in the long run! I don't know what the deal is! It's driving me crazy! I 'm a really nice and interesting person i've always thought..i have tons of guy friends. I get along with pretty much everyone. I just can't seem to find a decent guy. I'm beggining to wonder if i'm not doing something wrong? There has to be some decent guys left out there? Right? Help...what can i do... Amy- 1st of all, I think you kindof have a serious problem. I am not trying to scare you, but my friend had the same problem and she is a LESBIAN.!! I mean- what you're going through may mean that maybe guys are just not the ones for ya, maybe u need to go out for some girls! I mean i am really not trying to SCARE u, but maybe u should check it out...thanks for your time... sincerely- lilly sanders Link to post Share on other sites
Cookie Posted November 26, 1998 Share Posted November 26, 1998 I have been going thru the same problems as Amy, and I KNOW that I'm not a lesbian. Amy- 1st of all, I think you kindof have a serious problem. I am not trying to scare you, but my friend had the same problem and she is a LESBIAN.!! I mean- what you're going through may mean that maybe guys are just not the ones for ya, maybe u need to go out for some girls! I mean i am really not trying to SCARE u, but maybe u should check it out...thanks for your time... sincerely- lilly sanders Link to post Share on other sites
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