girliegurl66 Posted August 26, 2003 Share Posted August 26, 2003 Pls. Help me my ex and I had a little disagreement and I feel really bad for what I did to him. Now he doesn't want to talk to me and even be my friend anymore. But I don't want that to happen. I don't want to be in bad terms with him. See he has a very high temper and it's really hard for me to talk to him. But I don't know what to do now. Should I call him and apologize or should I just leave it and wait till he calls me whic I know he won't. Please help me! Link to post Share on other sites
Romanrose Posted August 26, 2003 Share Posted August 26, 2003 What did you do? Thinking it has something to do with no respecting him. Link to post Share on other sites
Leikela Posted August 26, 2003 Share Posted August 26, 2003 If you are that desperate to make amends with him, then by all means, swallow your pride and call him up and apologize. Sitting around and waiting for him to call isn't going to do you any good when you are the one who insulted HIM. Take responsibility for what you did and apologize to the guy. If he chooses to forgive you, so be it. If not, think twice about how you treat people if you don't want them bailing on you like that. Link to post Share on other sites
steffany Posted August 26, 2003 Share Posted August 26, 2003 Give him sometime! He is your ex. And besides most of us whom are still friends with ex's from our past know there really needs to be some time in between togetherness and exness. ok I made those words up but you know what I mean. Take sometime to get back to who you are without him. Take up a book club or indoor rock climbing...just get your mind off his problem. He'll be your friend when he is over you totally romantically. You obviously hurt him and pressuring him into forgiving you is only going to make this more drawn out than it needs to be. Link to post Share on other sites
Author girliegurl66 Posted August 27, 2003 Author Share Posted August 27, 2003 Do you think it's a really good idea to call him and apologize to him. But he told me already that he doesn't want to talk to me anymore or even be my friend. Please anyone give me any advice. Link to post Share on other sites
steffany Posted August 27, 2003 Share Posted August 27, 2003 He means what he says for right now. Doesn't mean his feelings won't change. I would respect what he has asked of you. Just give him his space and time to heal. He deserves to have at least that. But I would find a way to safely leave him a short breezy message. I usually do mine through my call notes or my cell if they have the same carrier. I have an option after listening to a message to reply to it. It doesn't ring on their phone but it will give them the message. I would keep it short and sweet. Maybe a "I just wanted to call and tell you I feel awful for what I have done and I hope that some day we can be friends." Then I would leave him alone! Link to post Share on other sites
Author girliegurl66 Posted August 27, 2003 Author Share Posted August 27, 2003 Thanks everyone for your advice. But Steffany I was wondering how long should i wait till i call him to leave him a little small message. I hope that he will forgive me after all i have put him through. Link to post Share on other sites
steffany Posted August 27, 2003 Share Posted August 27, 2003 I'm not really sure what you did or how mad he is. But I will guess he is really upset...since he doesn't want to be friends now. And I will guess it is pretty serious since you are so sorry and he won't talk to let you say that much. So from what I have learned the sooner the better when it comes to appologies. If later he decides to talk to you as friends it may come up one day that he questions the sincerity of you appology since you waited 3 weeks to tell him you are sorry. But at the same time you have to respect that he doesn't want to talk directly to you or be friends. That's why I mention the message thing. It lets you be sincere without stepping over the lines he set up for you. And it may show him how sorry you are to have still called to say so even though he has told you not to. I don't know but I would do it right now. So when he checks his messages when he gets home he will get it. Too much time has passed already. Link to post Share on other sites
Author girliegurl66 Posted August 27, 2003 Author Share Posted August 27, 2003 Thank You Steffany for your advice. I will text message him today and apologize to him and hopes that he will forgive me maybe not now but later. Link to post Share on other sites
steffany Posted August 27, 2003 Share Posted August 27, 2003 And remember keep it short and breezy! Link to post Share on other sites
Author girliegurl66 Posted August 28, 2003 Author Share Posted August 28, 2003 I have another problem I forgot to mention. There's this so called friend of my ex, which she is a girl. She's a co-worker of his and they became friends couple of months before we broke up. But after we broke up i didn't like her because I would hear from my friends that they would see them together. But he says that they're just friends. So on that day when me and my ex had a disagreement, my ex was ignoring my calls and she was also with him that day. So I decided to call her cell and just asked to tell him to call me since he turned his cell off. She started giving me attitude like this is not his cell and why are you calling. I just wanted to let him know that i really wanted to talk to him and to call me and i hanged up. I feel really bad. When i talked to my friend about it she said do you feel like you should apologize but i said i don't know, i feel really bad, and I know that my ex was really mad. Do you feel that i should call her up to apologize to her or should i just let it go. Please give me some advice. Link to post Share on other sites
steffany Posted August 28, 2003 Share Posted August 28, 2003 You really just need to let him be mad. My advice doesn't change. And as far as she goes. No I would not call to appologize. I would assume since you have her number you have called her to chat or talk before. And you called her a friend of yours. Hun, some friends are better off not being YOUR friends. I would leave him a message and screw the so called friend of yours! Link to post Share on other sites
Author girliegurl66 Posted August 29, 2003 Author Share Posted August 29, 2003 I would like to thank everyone who has given me advice. I really appreciate it. I hope that oneday he will forgive me and we will be friends again and be able to talk, and one day get back together, and hope to forget everything that has happened. But for right now, i left him the message as what Steffany suggested to me and I will leave it as that. But also thanks Steffany for your advice, i am so sorry for having too many problems. Thanks again. Aloha Link to post Share on other sites
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