cryn4attn Posted October 17, 2008 Share Posted October 17, 2008 So I recently started to date this guy (long distance) I met through a friend of mine 2 years ago, we liked each other back then and we were still long distance then but for reasons of my own I ended it after a month of talking..now its 2 years later and we reconnected and are still very much into each other, he lives 2 hrs away and still come up every weekend to see me (complicated why i can't go there). At first when we reconnected we were talking on the phone like 2-3x a day, texting, Im'ing, emailing all the time, and he started talking to me about long term things that I even thought were strange he mentioned so soon but I went with it. He was very lovey dovey but then 2.5 weeks later he tells me he thinks we should 'take things slow' and lay low during the week and have eachother on the weekends which is understandable because we are both very busy but it went from talking all the time to talking once every other day or 2 days (and not necessarily via phone..sometimes online) and its been driving me insane! :bunny:because i feel like I'm not connecting with him with such little communication! am i being irrational? Is this how people date? haha maybe I've been spoiled in my past relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
strongertoday Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 I have no idea....It seems everyone has different expectations of what is the right amount of communication... I am wondering if your guy feels he is runnning out of things to talk about? I know sometimes my guy says he has done nothing so doesnt have stuff to say, but we still find stuff. My guy would be perfectly happy with one long (like 5 hours plus) conversation a week...whereas I prefer a touch base call or text everyday. Confusingly tho the answer is communication....You have to tell him and try and find a mid line solution....My guy very wonderfully now texts or calls each night even if only for 2 minutes...and if he is busy or forgets I try and not get stressed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cryn4attn Posted October 19, 2008 Author Share Posted October 19, 2008 I'm not sure though because he tells me how much he likes me but then i won't talk to him for like 2-3 days at a time, i'll send him a quick text saying hi what's up? what are ya up to? and he doesn't even write back...why do guys say one thing and do another?? i don't get it.. Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 Because they can.....! You're chasing.... He knows it...... Great! Just what he likes! Someone running crazy after him! What an Ego-boost! Stop texting, MSN-ing or anything else. He'll soon miss it and ask 'whassup....?' Then, you can reverse the roles! Link to post Share on other sites
Author cryn4attn Posted October 19, 2008 Author Share Posted October 19, 2008 haha I know..as soon as he told me he wanted to take it slow I stopped calling him and letting him do the work but I hate feeling like i'm waiting around. This is what he told me when he said he thinks we should slow things down, [FONT=Arial][sIZE=2][COLOR=#000000] -he likes me a lot but it got to the point where he was thinking about me 24/7 and it was becoming too distracting for him and interferring with work/school so he personally needed to slow it down and lay low during the week and we can have eachother on the weekends..he needs to block me out of his mind so he can focus on his life... I know he isn't bull****ting me but seriously how would you guys feel about that? [/COLOR][/sIZE][/FONT] Link to post Share on other sites
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