I didn't have the guts to tell her how I felt: Should I tell her now?

[dannyclass18]

I met up with a girl on holiday who is mates with my friends from Dublin. During the 2 weeks, we spent most of our time together. We later, went to meet up with her and my friends from Dublin, again I spent most of my time with her. She came over from Ireland to Edinburgh to visit her sister who lives there, we met up (I live in Glasgow) and again we spent most of our time together. However, instead of me trying to pull her, I didn't have the guts to tell her how I felt, and while visiting her in Edinburgh, my cousin who was also on the holiday together and fully knowing my feelings for her pulled her!

 

So, do you think there was nothing go to happen with her in the first place or just an idiot who got himself needlessly hurt by not telling her his feelings?

 

I won't see her probably until January, but she may be moving to Edinburgh next year to go to university there!

 

So should I now tell her how I feel because I can't lose anymore (even with me not seeing her until January)? Or should I just leave it and forget about her?

 

Another problem is, I am almost 100% certain she overheard a conversation I was having with my friend about me liking her!

 

What should I do? How should I go about things? (If possible, could you answer in detail as this is very important to me)

 

Thanks

[midori]

what have you got to lose? you like her, you should let her know. It doesn't have to be a Big Proclamation. Maybe you could say something to the effect that you wished you'd spoken up before your cousin did in Edinburgh, but by the way, you really like her and would be interested in pursuing something if she's available. See what she says. What more can you do?

[iloveash]

Originally posted by dannyclass18

I met up with a girl on holiday who is mates with my friends from Dublin. During the 2 weeks, we spent most of our time together. We later, went to meet up with her and my friends from Dublin, again I spent most of my time with her. She came over from Ireland to Edinburgh to visit her sister who lives there, we met up (I live in Glasgow) and again we spent most of our time together. However, instead of me trying to pull her, I didn't have the guts to tell her how I felt, and while visiting her in Edinburgh, my cousin who was also on the holiday together and fully knowing my feelings for her pulled her!

 

So, do you think there was nothing go to happen with her in the first place or just an idiot who got himself needlessly hurt by not telling her his feelings?

 

I won't see her probably until January, but she may be moving to Edinburgh next year to go to university there!

 

So should I now tell her how I feel because I can't lose anymore (even with me not seeing her until January)? Or should I just leave it and forget about her?

 

Another problem is, I am almost 100% certain she overheard a conversation I was having with my friend about me liking her!

 

What should I do? How should I go about things? (If possible, could you answer in detail as this is very important to me)

 

Thanks

 

my advise to u is that, when the girl u like knows that u r in love with her and u didnt do anything to tell her directly or indirectly, do something, if not she will think that u r not couragerous enough, and the next u know is something bad will happen...it happens to me before, so it is true.

[Kelebek]

Hi (I'm from Glasgow too!!)

 

I'd say go for it. So you try to pull her, what's the worst that could happen?? She says no? Right. So you don't get a date. But if you don't go for it, then you

DEFINITELY won't get a date!! So what have you got to lose??

 

Are you worried about jeopardising your friendship with her? Is there a great friendship there? If so, I could understand your reluctance, but otherwise, just go for it. That was a bit crap of your cousin to do that, but who cares who got her first, it's who gets her last that counts - you're the one she'll decide to stay with, even after pulling your cousin!! That'd shut him up!!

 

Good luck!!! Let us know how you get on!

 

Love Jill xxx

[Kelebek]

PS - forgot to add, do this as soon as possible, because there's no point wasting your life waiting for something until January when there might be nothing to wait FOR. Tell her how you feel, so that you either know there's definitely something to wait for......or so that you can move on, and save yourself the heartache of waiting 5 months just to discover she didn't feel the same.