mental_traveller Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 This would have been my perspective when I was 16, and I don't see any reason to change it now: I think it's sick and creepy that complete strangers think they have the right to judge/jail/assault a 27 year old hottie who was lucky enough to sleep with my studly 16 year old self. Mind your own business, oldsters!
mental_traveller Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Being female should have nothing to do with an abhorrence of this type of predatory behaviour. annieo, I think the gap should be no more than 5 years, due to levels of emotional maturity. Emotional maturity and chronological age are not the same thing.
Trialbyfire Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Emotional maturity and chronological age are not the same thing. If you consider how North American children are raised, the average 16 year old doesn't have emotional maturity or at least enough emotional maturity to handle a 27 year old.
Green Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 However you dress this up a 27 year old is far too old for a 16 year old Just saying the ages makes me cringe!! The fact that a 27 year old would be interested in a 16 year old is worrying beyond belief! I wouldnt care if the 16 felt as mature as a 30 year old and the 27 year old felt as mature as a 14 year old it is still WRONG!!!! Yak yak Yakkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk The entire ranting way you aproach this topic shows great imaturity on your own part. I could easily see a 16 year old being attracted to a 27 year old and the converse.
mental_traveller Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Take the mentality of your average 21 year old, your average 27 year old and your average 16 year old. Your average 27 year old has the emotional maturity that far exceeds your average 21 year old. This is fact. Most 16 year olds believe they know everything or at least believe they can handle ANYTHING. Most can't. But since it is not average people you are judging, but two unique individuals, your point is moot.
Trialbyfire Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 But since it is not average people you are judging, but two unique individuals, your point is moot. Neither you or I knows for certain the two unique individuals and their maturity levels so if my point is moot, so is yours.
Green Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Bottom line 27 year olds and 16 year olds are probably going to get it on. No parent should willingly allow this to happen. And if you live in an area where this is ilegal or if your looking for a serious relationship then no
mental_traveller Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Neither you or I knows for certain the two unique individuals and their maturity levels so if my point is moot, so is yours. Ah, but I wasn't saying all relationships between 16 and 27 year olds are fine. Whereas you were saying all such relationships are wrong. To clarify - in my opinion, you need to know more about the circumstances of the individuals involved, how their relationship is, before you can really judge it. It's not like a 50 year old child molester abusing a 10 year old, after all. It's someone who is very nearly a full adult, legally entitled to vote or fight in a war or run for office within a year or two, and someone else who is still fairly young. I don't agree that you can automatically say all such relationships at that age are wrong, let alone predatory. And to say that it would be fine to assault the person involved, without knowing anything about them or the nature of the relationship, is pretty iffy IMO.
mental_traveller Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Bottom line 27 year olds and 16 year olds are probably going to get it on. No parent should willingly allow this to happen. And if you live in an area where this is ilegal or if your looking for a serious relationship then no Depends on the case. I wouldn't have a problem if I had a 16 year old son and he was banging a 27 year old, unless something else was amiss. With a 16 year old daughter I'd be more wary, but if the guy was a decent and upstanding fellow then it'd be far preferable to the typical moronic 17 year old horndog who would otherwise be sleeping with her (probably unprotected).
Trialbyfire Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Ah, but I wasn't saying all relationships between 16 and 27 year olds are fine. Whereas you were saying all such relationships are wrong. To clarify - in my opinion, you need to know more about the circumstances of the individuals involved, how their relationship is, before you can really judge it. It's not like a 50 year old child molester abusing a 10 year old, after all. It's someone who is very nearly a full adult, legally entitled to vote or fight in a war or run for office within a year or two, and someone else who is still fairly young. I don't agree that you can automatically say all such relationships at that age are wrong, let alone predatory. And to say that it would be fine to assault the person involved, without knowing anything about them or the nature of the relationship, is pretty iffy IMO. Since there isn't any available information about these two specific individuals and it really doesn't matter what's posted since no one knows for certain that the information is accurate v. strictly the posters perspective as someone who's been in the same unhappy relationship for the past 10 years. A relationship whereby her b/f thinks she's too fat to marry, you do the math as to how functional this relationship really is. It sounds like a controlling relationship to me. With this in mind, I can only go by the average maturity AND experience level of a 16 year old and the average maturity AND experience level of a 27 year old. If I were the parent of a 16 year old, I would bring out the buckshot and aerate his arse.
Green Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Depends on the case. I wouldn't have a problem if I had a 16 year old son and he was banging a 27 year old, unless something else was amiss. With a 16 year old daughter I'd be more wary, but if the guy was a decent and upstanding fellow then it'd be far preferable to the typical moronic 17 year old horndog who would otherwise be sleeping with her (probably unprotected). Ahh you through a new scenario into the mix. If it was my 16 year old son with a 27 year old woman that would be less alarming but still I wouldn't be for it. Even if they guy was really upstanding and it was in an area where it was legal I wouldn't want my 16 year old daughter dating some great guy who was 27. I'm not 27 but I'm almost in my mid twenties and if some hot 16 year old came onto me and I was in an area where it was legal I'd get me some
CommitmentPhobe Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Two words, Gabriella Cilmi: http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=r5PZ7BCMJ7g
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