Bells Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 Okay ,here's a situation that involved ME, not someone else, lol ..Sometimes I go through my friends list...and do a little "Clean House" of people that do not or just stopped corresponding with me. This includes people that just "Fade" away to those who just ignore emails without responding. One of them was one of my "female friends", I guess, she kind of selectively responds to my emails, but most of the time as of late, she's been ignoring them (you can tell it says "read",when you look in the "sent" section) I was like "Screw it, if she doesn't want to reply to me, no point in me keeping me on her friends list." About a day or 2 later, I get a friends request....it' she attemping to add me back on. lol. I was thinking, "Hmmm interesting....should I make her stew?" 1. She either thought it was an error on MySpace's part, and I was deleted from her friends list by accident 2. I don't add her back right away making her thinking, "Hm, maybe he did delete me purposely??" 3. The next time she sees me, in person....if she broaches the subject, asking "How come you're not on my friends list anymore?" Should I tell her that, "Sorry, but you don't respond to my emails, no point in having you on my buddy list." Me and a friend had this discussion about how her friends, when she was out and had an operation, they never call her up to see how she was doing or anything of that nature, even her co-workers ...and she realized the true nature of her relationships with most people...they simply don't give a crap about her. I don't know, I tend to have a problem with people who don't stay in touch with me or call me to see how I'm doing...I'm always calling them to say "What's up" So we can kind of relate there.....but this kind of foreshadows things. I mean, would I be an ass for tellin her "Hey, you don't respond to my emails...so....I took you off....." What do you think? Would you add someone back if they've ignored you? Link to post Share on other sites
Suiyobi Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 You know what, here's the truth. You will be an ass if you tell her that, but at the same time you're giving her a straight-up honest response because in reality that is the real reason why you took her off your list in the first place. Maybe by telling her that it'll tick off something inside her, make her realize that, hey, you tried to reach out to her but she wasn't reaching back. At that point, she could either apologize and change her ways, or think of you as an ass and go all no-contact with you, which I think at this point you should be okay with if that ever happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 If I were to delete every person on my friends' list that I haven't spoken to in a bit, I'd have to delete 50% of my friends. MS and FB are there to keep in touch, not remain in constant, consistent contact. Jeez. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bells Posted October 20, 2008 Author Share Posted October 20, 2008 If I were to delete every person on my friends' list that I haven't spoken to in a bit, I'd have to delete 50% of my friends. MS and FB are there to keep in touch, not remain in constant, consistent contact. Jeez. Yeah, but there comes a time clean house where it isn't necessary to have anyone on my list anymore. But I guess it was this person in particular I was talking about. I just think it's kind of a slap in the face when I'm deliberately being ignored. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bells Posted October 20, 2008 Author Share Posted October 20, 2008 At that point, she could either apologize and change her ways, or think of you as an ass and go all no-contact with you, which I think at this point you should be okay with if that ever happens. True...a good friend would respect my honesty and apologize, if not, ....there's the door. Link to post Share on other sites
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