Author mrmatt Posted October 27, 2008 Author Share Posted October 27, 2008 I think you should date if the mood so strikes you. Glad you had a good one tonight! Late night SAD ? Link to post Share on other sites
jj33 Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 Date away that is probably the best thing you can do for yourself. If nothing else you are reaffirming that you are single you are not tied to this woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 Don't confuse 'angry' with "passionate". You have had 11 pages telling you the same thing over and over...people are trying to find a way to get you to SEE what they're trying to tell you. I'm not sure what else I can suggest to you at this point, my friend. I think you're doing the right thing by going NC...but if its not a FIRM NC...its going to drastically limit its effectivness...and its going to prevent it from truly creating a change in your situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mrmatt Posted October 27, 2008 Author Share Posted October 27, 2008 Don't confuse 'angry' with "passionate". You have had 11 pages telling you the same thing over and over...people are trying to find a way to get you to SEE what they're trying to tell you. I'm not sure what else I can suggest to you at this point, my friend. I think you're doing the right thing by going NC...but if its not a FIRM NC...its going to drastically limit its effectivness...and its going to prevent it from truly creating a change in your situation. Understood...don't get me wrong, I appreciate all the insight here. Ultimately we all choose our own path based on what we're willing to endure. This is just the point I'm at now. FWIW, it has been true NC (according to the def in here), since Friday. So, 3 days, almost 4. Still very painful, but I'm still breathing (checked with a mirror) Link to post Share on other sites
sadintexas Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 Late night SAD ? Yeah, I'm pretty much a night owl. After I get the kids to bed, I like some "me"' time Link to post Share on other sites
stampdaddy Posted November 4, 2008 Share Posted November 4, 2008 what's up, Bro??!?! Link to post Share on other sites
tyler123 Posted November 5, 2008 Share Posted November 5, 2008 Matt- First off read this http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_100/130_relationship_expert.html i read it and it helped for a day or 2 but my MW called needed me/asked for me and I could not say no... so dont beat yourself up too much if you can't swallow or dont want to swallow the truth about ur MW-- i didn't for 2 yrs. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mrmatt Posted April 7, 2009 Author Share Posted April 7, 2009 I didn't even look at the date of my thread. But I come on here to lurk occasionally. My situation today. Completely romantically, emotionally, and physically free of the MW. Even in a new relationship, with a SINGLE, AVAILABLE woman, imagine that! You can be freed of the trap, the anguish and emotional turmoil. Not that you won't have it in other areas of your life, but this is one I can do without! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 Another poster child for success. I really wish we could compile all of the times we've had posters come back like this with a drive by, telling how well their situation turned out once the affair was ended. Perhaps it would help others to make the choices that THEY need to make? Link to post Share on other sites
Author mrmatt Posted April 7, 2009 Author Share Posted April 7, 2009 Another poster child for success. I really wish we could compile all of the times we've had posters come back like this with a drive by, telling how well their situation turned out once the affair was ended. Perhaps it would help others to make the choices that THEY need to make? Was not an easy road...but good GOD so much easier now!!! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 Glad to hear you have YOUR LIFE back. Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 I just read the entire thread, and it is so nice to see that you did keep NC with her, that you got over her, and that you moved on! Well done. Link to post Share on other sites
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