Would you move with a SO?

[Sks]

LDRs = death of relationship, if he moves and you don't I doubt you will stay together.

[Walk]

Thanks, James and quankanne, you both made really good points. My boyfriend hates his boss because he makes obsene jokes and makes fun of all the others who work there in his office. He says he swears a lot and doesn't act very professional. I have told my bf time and time again to just ignore him and not let it get to him. But it does. Sometimes I think my bf sets his standards too high, and can't except that there is fault in others. When we have fights, it's seriously like the world is ending.

 

You are right that he needs to suck it up. I'm getting a little sick of his complaining, especially after I have told him the same thing over and over again. He IS trying to run away, and that's not the answer. I keep telling him that he should either put up with his boss's inappropriateness, or find a new job.

 

I'm not the best advice giver on partners who change jobs, but in my opinion it's not a good idea to push him to either put up or get a new job. Again, just my opinion, but it'd be better if you nudged instead of shoved right now. If you get into a shoving match over this, then both of you are going to end up pissed off and unhappy with each other. It'd probably be better if you slipped him the classified's, or suggest he hang out with friends for a good long vent about the boss, or slide him some articles on how to deal with irritating bosses. You can get a heck of a lot farther in a relationship by being a positive influence in the right way to deal with an issue. And by positive I don't mean you have to go along with what he's saying, but don't dismiss his issue just because you're sick of hearing about it. Which is basically what you're suggesting you're thinking about doing. Hopefully that was just you venting some frustration out.

 

Can I ask you a question though? If you knew that he could get a better paying job near where he wants to move, would you be okay with the idea at that point?

[Lishy]

LB, how are things going?

[betterthandead]

Someone told me that it's silly to move in with someone without being married. Keep this in mind that this is nothing socially wrong with that, but there's pretty much no reason to marry anymore once the both of you cohabitat with each other. Someone told me this and thinking about it, I do agree.

 

He also told me that if a guy is not talking about marriage 2-3 years into the relationship, and nothing is happening, it is not happening. And if a guy has to be "pushed" into asking for marriage, he may do it out of "default" not out of something romantic.

[Lauriebell82]

LB, how are things going?

 

Things are going well. We went to a wedding this weekend that my BF was in and it was a lot of fun! I posted this in another section, but I caught the bouquet and he caught the garter! (it was fixed though, the bride and groom threw them to us).

 

We haven't really talked about moving too much right now, my bf knows my feelings on the subject. My BF says 2 years he wants to leave, but I don't know if we will be married in two years. I told him that when we get engaged/married, then we can start making concrete plans for a move in the future. He seemed to be agreeable with that. So we shall see what happens.