Relationship Analysis

[anarchy89]

Hey, I'm having a bit of a crisis atm - getting all worked up and feeling sick over it!

 

I've been with my gf for nearly 4 years, met at school and now at seperate unis. Whilst we were at school, we had arguments over smoking and drinking, and her relationship with her parents affecting ours. There were times when she'd be really insensitive and we almost broke up.

 

Well we stuck it out through college, not too much happened, just got comfortable together. But I could never shake the feeling that I was putting more in than she was. We didn't argue too much, but when we did, it was always because she would go out with friends at weekends over seeing me.

 

Now we're at uni, we're 3.5 hours away. The first term wasn't too difficult because we were both finding out feet, then second term she was too tired for sexual activity whenever we met up, and there wasn't much of a chance to recconnect emotionally. Also, because she threw herself into uni life; going out every other night, then working the remaining nights, she didn't seem to have time to sit and talk with me, always seemed like she had something better to do. So in the third term, we had a rocky moment where I told her I needed her to be more availabe because I was feeling neglected, and we almost ended it but she promised to change.

 

This summer, the first few weeks she just cried when she was with me because we'd almost broken up. She then went on holiday, and when she came back she was angry because I hadn't planned a romantic night out like she'd asked and expected - even though I'd told her that money was tight so I could only offer a eveningn evening at my house.

 

She then went on holiday again, and for her birthday I took her to a city and hotel for the night, but she expected me to pay for everything and ended up costing me over 100 quid, once again knowing that my money was low (saving to have money to live at uni). However, for my birthday, she visited and bought some doughnuts, and then we went to Ikea (so she could buy things for her Uni room).

 

Throughout the relationship, it seemed like I have to comply with all her requests - watching films she wanted to see, go shopping with her and carry her bags, come out with her friends - but not in return for me.

 

This term, she has no time to talk to me for extended periods, and never seems to want to talk about anything when I do phone. I've now started talking to other friends a lot more, and seem to enjoy their presence a lot more than talking with my gf.

 

I'm going up to see her this weekend, is it worth telling her how neglected I feel again, or am I wrong to give her yet another chance?

 

Thanks