jasperlynx Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 Im at my wits end with my relationship. Im willing to try anything at this point. we are civil still in the same house. seperate bedrooms of course. But she still insist that its over. Small children involved. Early stages of "im done" month now. Been playing it cool with the miss yous and begging. My question is Does this reverse stuff really work? Im willing to try anything just to get my foot back into the door. I miss my wife dearly. Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 You don't have to agree to everything. But there is no need to argue about the point. I heard that as a general rule one needs approximately five positive actions to counter one bad interaction. Therefore avoid negative interaction. By the sounds of your posts, your wife's "love tank" is very empty right now. You need to know how to fill it. This means that you have to learn to use the right currency. Please note: this is the appropriate display of affection that SHE wants, NOT what you think she wants. Do Google "The five languages of love" -Chapman and "His Needs/Her Needs" - Dr Harley. Sorry bud, you have quite a bit of reading. There truly is LOTS to learn. Link to post Share on other sites
mendsley Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 I aggree with Imagine she is spot on. I would also take of advantage of her still with you as a chance to see a Marriage Counselor, or maybe Independant Counseling. I too am going thru what you are but my wife left and lives 10 hours away, I wish I recognized the problems before she left because I feel I would have more opportunities to work on our relationship. The biggest thing you can do is COMMUNICATION with her, there are plenty of people here that can help with ideas and make sure you look at each one and at least look into it. The counselor I am seeing said he personally thinks there is alot of things Homer says is good and he pretty much gives me the same ideas as Homer does, I'm not saying Homer is correct, I'm just saying that is the approach I am currently using with my seperated wife and I can see a difference. Good Luck - Link to post Share on other sites
mendsley Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 Sorry Imagine the "she" was suppossed to be "he" Link to post Share on other sites
husbndinthemaking Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 It is one of the things that worked for me. My wife and I just got back from a cruise and are very close now. I agreed with her about alot of things that I would never have agreed on in the past. Over time, she became more loving and could see that I cared about her opinions. Zaxxes.com also worked for me as well. It is almost the same ideas with a little extra. Hope this helps you. Link to post Share on other sites
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