Strange Relationships: How do i make this girl understand that I love her ?

[Wolverine117]

Hi.

 

 

I have been friends with a girl named Michelle for a long time.

 

We've seen each other going through dating hell. At our best and worse with a lot of people.

 

My last girlfriend was Jessica, a black lesbian. Michelle told me there was something not quite ok with Jessica but i did not listen. I let my rudder do the thinking and i was hurt.

I've been alone and so was she. She dated Mike, a buddy of mine. She found him jerking off on her bed and almost killed him. He's gone now. We chill all the time,

Michelle and I.

 

This is weird.

 

I've known her since junior high. She has been my anchor through high school.

She helped me study for the SATs. She helped me through MCAS. I helped her through Keith and Kyle and David and James. She was my friend when i doubted myself after a particularly hard year. We are going to the same college and

live in the same campus.

 

She was at my house the other day and we were watching "Some Kind of Wonderful." An old flick about some guy being in love with some girl and missing out on the girl who stood by him all the while. We both laughed and said that guy had to be stupid for not seeing the girl who loved him and chasing all the wrong ones all these years.

It got me thinking. "What if Michelle was the one for me ? " She is cute and all but i never really looked at her. She is great and funny. We were wrestling the other day. She is a 5'2, 101-pound redhead. I am a big and tall black man.

yet she pinned me down.

 

I ...just walked away. One time recently I blurted out that i loved her.

 

She just smiled and said i did not mean it and she knew me too well and that i was phasing again.

 

Ok, I am a phaser. I watch star trek. I am fascinated by porn (lesbian, bi, trans, bdsm, black, asian, bbw). This made me wonder about myself sometimes.

Heck, one drunken night i said something about a strap on. People are still laughing at me for that one.

 

I am in love with Michelle. I just grabbed her and kissed her. She seemed to like it. Then she said no. She knows that while accidentally i might blow up the earth, i would never hurt her intentionally.

I love her too much. She says she thinks i'll change and snap out of it like I do everything else.

 

I asked her if she ever thought of me as more than a friend and she said yes, sometimes. But i am way too goofy.

 

I love this woman. I mean it. I've even given up porn. Something my mother, shrink and priest have been trying to get me to do for years. I cant eat or sleep.

 

How do i make this girl understand that I love her ?

[Curt]

Slowly and gently take both her hands in yours, face her, look her in the eye, (seriously, but with the "look of love" painted all over ya) and tell her.

 

Curt

[dalmatianbaby]

She might be afraid to let you into this part of her life. It sounds to me like you've seen each other through a lot, and she might be scared to take your relationship to the next level, because if it doesn't work out, you might not be there for her anymore.

 

Women respond a great deal to actions. Actions do truly speak louder than words. You have to show her that you have feelings for her. You know her better than anyone here does. You know what she likes. Pay attention to little side comments that she makes...like when she was a kid she liked my little pony or something, then go out of your way to find something special that would mean the world to her. Something that some Joe Schmo off the street wouldn't know about. She'll know that you really listen to her, and that the things that are important to her, are important to you.

 

Acknowledging the little things about her will reflect you in a whole new light. You might be surprised at the results.

 

Dalmatianbaby