Jamie31 Posted August 29, 2003 Posted August 29, 2003 My best friend Jennifer is 7 1/2 months pregnant. Her baby (a little girl) is due October 29th. I am really excited for her and I can't wait until the baby gets here, but I know that after it's born she will be very busy and we may not have a chance to get together that often. So I would like to do something special, just me and her, and do something sweet for her before the baby is born. But I am not sure what to do. Her baby shower is Saturday and I have already gotten her a gift, but I want to do something else nice for her....just to show her that I care a lot about her. Anyone have any suggestions????
cindy0039 Posted August 29, 2003 Posted August 29, 2003 You could take her for a manicure and/or pedicure. That is always something fun for friends to do together. And then take her to lunch.
Author Jamie31 Posted August 29, 2003 Author Posted August 29, 2003 I would, but that wouldn't be anything new to her...she get's her nails done every 2 weeks. And we live in a small town, so there isn't a whole lot of options. Anything else?
Sweetheart71 Posted August 29, 2003 Posted August 29, 2003 Well there's lots of limitations with her being prego and living in a small town. How about inviting her over for dinner and then getting a few movies and just having girl time. Or maybe even paint her nursery for her. There's lots of things. But just do whatever you and her love to do and mean a lot to both of you!
Author Jamie31 Posted August 29, 2003 Author Posted August 29, 2003 Well, I was wanting to do something a little more special than just sitting around and watching movies. And painting the nursery is out of the question, because their new house won't even be built by the time the baby gets here, they are just starting on it. So I don't know, maybe I will figure something out. I guess noone has any good ideas. I guess noone ever does nice things for their friends except me. Oh well.
2SidestoStories Posted August 29, 2003 Posted August 29, 2003 Jamie, one of the very best, kindest and most thoughtful things you can do for your friend to show her you support her is to offer to cook meals for she and her hubby for the first few days after they're home from the hospital. I know from experience (have my 10 month old son and 4 year old daughter) that it was those folks who brought over those gigantic pots of soup, or those lovely homemade lasagnes that made transitioning into new-mommy-hood that much more bearable for me. You could also offer to clean, or just sit with the new baby while your friend rests, and insist that she rest while she can! That way you can help curb some of your own baby-desire by holding the new one, assuming her mom doesn't mind! Just my two cents, but trust me on this one!
dalmatianbaby Posted August 29, 2003 Posted August 29, 2003 Originally posted by Jamie31 I guess noone has any good ideas. I guess noone ever does nice things for their friends except me. Oh well. Don't you think that's kind of harsh? People are offering you ideas, and you just poo poo them, saying that no one does nice things for their friends. That's a little on the uncool side. Anyway...why don't you gather pictures of the two of you and make a little album. On each page, write a little tidbit about how happy your friendship makes you. Then leave a couple pages blank and give her a card that says you're looking forward to your duo becoming a trio... Dalmatianbaby
Author Jamie31 Posted August 29, 2003 Author Posted August 29, 2003 That's a wonderful idea and I would love to do that for her, but see the thing is she and her hubby live with her parents right now because they just started building their house, so they are just living with her parents. And her mom doesn't work. So her mom will be there to do all of those things for her. I would love to cook for her and clean for her - I wouldn't mind helping at all, in fact, I want to, but she has her mom to do all that for her. I don't know. Maybe I will think of something. But thanks anyway.
Tony T Posted August 29, 2003 Posted August 29, 2003 JAMIE31 WRITES: "I guess noone has any good ideas. I guess noone ever does nice things for their friends except me." This is one of the most bizarres statements I have ever read on this forum. You are speaking here of the very kind people who take their valuable time to answer the many rehetorical and non-urgent questions you ask on this forum. It is unfathomable that somebody intelligent enough to pass the entrance exam to a nursing school (unless its name is Barbizon) would make such a statement. I do more nice things for people in an hour than some people do in a year. MOST people do nice things for their friends, unless they are pathologically self centered. I hope as you matriculate through nursing school you will understand that at a late hour in America people's minds are tired and worn from their hard day and you are much more likely to get more and better ideas during daylight hours, when people's minds are fresher. It would also seem that a very sharp lady would understand that the thread is not yet completed and had you not made such a blanket statement others would have come along to give you some new and more novel ideas. Don't forget, you said yourself you live in a small town so there aren't a whole lot of options. Rather than surmise that you're the only person who does nice things for their friends, maybe you could have deduced that the people who read your post so far live in larger towns that have more options...or were just too tired to be creative at the time. My job as owner of an advertising agency for 15 years was to come up with great ideas for clients. But if one ever told me they were the only person who came up with incredible ideas, I would be sssoooooo turned off. I would have also asked them WHY they hired me in the first place if they were so super talented??? I must add that more than 40 posts on this forum remain with no responses so far during the month of August...most of them from people with problems serious enough to post here. Yet a few people found the energy very late in the day to try to help you here. I sort of think your statement above calls for an apology to the nice folks who at least made an attempt to give you some ideas when they were under no obligation to do so.
HokeyReligions Posted August 29, 2003 Posted August 29, 2003 Originally posted by Jamie31 Well, I was wanting to do something a little more special than just sitting around and watching movies. And painting the nursery is out of the question, because their new house won't even be built by the time the baby gets here, they are just starting on it. So I don't know, maybe I will figure something out. I guess noone has any good ideas. I guess noone ever does nice things for their friends except me. Oh well. Jamie I think you need to get some sleep - this sounds damn cranky and selfish, not to mention rude. You gave very little information about your friend and yet people came up with good ideas. If you want to do something special for her then you need to think about the things the two of you enjoy - we don't know your hobbies or interests and what you two do when you hang out together. First, get some sleep and stop being so cranky and martyristic.
baycityroller Posted August 29, 2003 Posted August 29, 2003 Originally posted by Jamie31 Well, I was wanting to do something a little more special than just sitting around and watching movies. And painting the nursery is out of the question, because their new house won't even be built by the time the baby gets here, they are just starting on it. So I don't know, maybe I will figure something out. I guess noone has any good ideas. I guess noone ever does nice things for their friends except me. Oh well. I sometimes can't believe the gall of people; to seek free advice of others yet rudely shun any suggestion that was graciously given, only to end up having a temper tantrum by accusing those who were kind enough to respond with failing to give "good ideas" and if that weren't enough, accusing everyone of never doing nice things for their friends except them. How unbelievably arrogant and ungrateful. And on top of all that "noone" isn't even a word--that would be "no one" or "nobody." D'oh.
quankanne Posted August 29, 2003 Posted August 29, 2003 ouch, lady ... give it a little bit of time for us to cull ideas, and when someone offers a suggestion, don't be so dismissive just because it's not what you want. We don't know your pregnant friend, we don't know you, but we DO know how we'd respond in a similar situation with our best friends! that said, what is something that she doesn't do for herself that you can do for her? You say you'd love to help around the house but that her mother is going to be there anyway ... don't you think the new grandma-to-be wouldn't mind a little help, especially if you guys are living in the same town and you know your friend a little better than her mom does in certain areas? I'd be surprised if BOTH of them were unappreciative if you pitched in for a while. a meal, helping with a much-hated chore (polishing silver, lol), being the one with the wheels to take someone someplace, holding or soothing the baby while two frazzled moms get a breath of fresh air ... all very cheap to do, but sincere. she already does the pedicure thing – what about treating her to a full-body massage? My sister did that for our niece, who was pregnant AND had a year-old toddler to boot – she STILL talks about the massage that was arranged for her. Gift certificates to restaurants are good, because she can use them at her convenience; a basket full of her favorite munchies, with the instructions to not share with anyone; a journal to record her feelings about being a new mom; a sh•tload of film and coupons to develop them – or even going over and getting as many photos as you can of her and her new little family, then putting them into a pretty box or album for her to enjoy ... there are loads of ideas, but you're the one who knows her best ...
Author Jamie31 Posted August 29, 2003 Author Posted August 29, 2003 Thank you very much quankanne!! Those were some nice ideas. I have often thought about the massage idea...I am just not sure where a massage place is around here. But thanks again...
quankanne Posted August 29, 2003 Posted August 29, 2003 apparently there's a nice one in Jacksonville, Florida!!!! seriously, though, my niece said that it was probably the best thing anyone had ever done for her -- having two kids in a short period of time just wore her out, and that massage made her feel good in places she thought would never feel good again, like her legs and back. Hmmm, maybe you could check around your school and see if any physical therapists have any potential leads for someone who does this kind of work. Or maybe even try an area school that teaches massage? If that doesn't work, I guaranteed a good old fashioned foot-massage would feel like heaven to her! (Unless you volunteer to carry the kid these next few weeks?)
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