alskdjfhg Posted October 25, 2008 Share Posted October 25, 2008 hey, i wasn't sure which forum to post this in, but here goes... I'm attracted to this girl but am not sure if she is attracted to me (that question I already posted in the Dating forum). Anyways, oftentimes, though not always, when I see this girl, she will compliment me on something. ("I like your shirt/shoes/etc" or every now and then a "You're really good at _____"). I never know how to respond. Normally, I just smile, look her in the eyes and say "thank you!" I'm never sure how that works out though. Normally that makes her say something like "they look great on you" or something in that same vein. (1) How should I respond? Is a thank you okay? (2) There are tons of things I want to compliment her on, too. She always picks the right time to say things to me, but I can never figure out a time to say anything to her without it being akward. I would also prefer to be able to do so without sounding blatantly flirty, as there have been times that I have wanted nothing more than to say "you look gorgeous in that dress. it fits you perfectly. and your hair is beautiful tonight. and...." How can I best deliver my compliments to her? Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Suiyobi Posted October 25, 2008 Share Posted October 25, 2008 A mere "thank you" is only good enough if you want to keep things at a friendly level with the girl. If, however, you're interested in the girl as more than just a friend, you might want to say something in a casual manner, like, "I know, it turns you on doesn't it?" or "Yeah, I'm wearing it just for you," or you could joke around and say, "Dang girl, about time you noticed!" As for the girl, like you said you have plenty of things to compliment her on, so just go ahead and say it. If she's got the "balls" to say these things to you out of the blue, then be sure you've got the bigger balls and reciprocate. It won't come off as awkward, trust me. Blatantly flirty? Maybe, but that's something that you're going to have to have the courage to do. In fact, she might be surprised (in a good way) that you've spoken up. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted October 25, 2008 Share Posted October 25, 2008 thank you is a good response but seriously dude whether she likes you or not if you like her you should flirt and try to get her alone so you can kiss her like on a date or hang out Link to post Share on other sites
Author alskdjfhg Posted October 25, 2008 Author Share Posted October 25, 2008 KMT--any advice on how exactly to do that? I really, really don't know what I'm doing. I've only been in one relationship before, and that was 2 years ago. Wouldn't it be akward to do those things if she doesn't like me, btw? because, to be clear, if she is not attracted to me, I without a doubt, still would like to be friends with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted October 25, 2008 Share Posted October 25, 2008 You could also try, "Thanks, it makes me feel good to hear that. [short pause] You know, I really admire how you give compliments so effortlessly...some people find it hard to do that." Then she may respond to that, to which you'll respond to what she says. And then later, you can say in a light-hearted manner, "...like the other day, I wanted to compliment you on <whatever> but I don't have that talent that you do. Got any tips for me?" (Notice that, at this point, you've already given her 4 compliments, 5 if you count asking for her advice...cos that shows that you value her intellect/knowledge of whatever topic you're asking about.) And then listen really carefully cos she'll actually be giving step by step instructions on how SHE likes to get compliments and perhaps even (if you're super-lucky) on what she likes to be complimented. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted October 25, 2008 Share Posted October 25, 2008 KMT--any advice on how exactly to do that? I really, really don't know what I'm doing. I've only been in one relationship before, and that was 2 years ago. Wouldn't it be akward to do those things if she doesn't like me, btw? because, to be clear, if she is not attracted to me, I without a doubt, still would like to be friends with her. Well you obviously like her and thats all that counts. In fact a girl showing you that she likes you is only a way to get you to like her back, cause after all if you know a girl likes you that only makes her that much more attractive. So my advice is just go for her if you like her and don't be afraid of pottential rejection and awkwardness. Just be polite and respectful about how you go about but basicly in a cool laid back way find ways to flirt, and touch her, and find a way to either hang out alone or have some low pressure date where you kiss her. And make your moves this week. And force yourself to attempt a kiss at the end of the date if you didn't do it durring. And you don't have to call it a date. Look just stop holding back and do what ever you want Link to post Share on other sites
Author alskdjfhg Posted October 26, 2008 Author Share Posted October 26, 2008 Well you obviously like her and thats all that counts. In fact a girl showing you that she likes you is only a way to get you to like her back, cause after all if you know a girl likes you that only makes her that much more attractive. I don't understand!!! Just be polite and respectful about how you go about but basicly in a cool laid back way find ways to flirt, and touch her, and find a way to either hang out alone or have some low pressure date Any concrete tips on this? I really don't know what I am doing... Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted October 26, 2008 Share Posted October 26, 2008 All you need to understand is that its not important to figure out if a girl likes you a not for it to be ok to like her. Asking a girl to do something with you like (study) (Movies) (lunch) in itself can be the thing that gets her to like you. You responded fine to the compliments but if you want to kiss this girl then right about then would have been a great time to invite her to a bar-b-q or to lunch. Its perfectly fine to walk up to a girl out of nowhere have a short convo with her and invite her to lunch or a bar-b-q or something. Then just make sure to kiss her. Advice doesn't get any more concrete then that. Just be confident, I can't give you exact advice on what to do unless I was there with you. If what ever your planning on doing completly risks ruining your chances with her and getting yourself rejected for good then your probably on the right track because you have to completly risk losing a girl in order to get her. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted October 26, 2008 Share Posted October 26, 2008 A simple 'thanks' or 'thank you' should suffice. For some reason some girls aren't good at taking compliments and play it cool...weird I think. Link to post Share on other sites
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