What is a normal, healthy home environment???

[wierdmunky]

I know everyone's experience is different, but I was wondering what are your thoughts on what that is?

[You'reasian]

That's an open question.

 

People are going to have different opinions or rather biases based on their own experiences growing up, religious upbringing, their societal influence etc. Someone who grew up in Afghanistan during the 1980's will have different opinions compared to someone who grew up in England in the same time frame.

 

Personally, I believe that ever household should ideally should have two parents. Men should lead but otherwise be willing to compromise with their women. Women should be able to lead as well, especially in the absence of their man. See, some folks are already cringing...

 

I believe that a married man and woman should maintain a monogamous relationship; be willing to do what's necessary to keep that relationship healthy and beneficial so long as one's beliefs/morals aren't compromised.

 

and the list could go on...

 

Taking your question a step further. How does one's belief on what is a good, stable household affect our relationship when they become more serious? Should we adjust? Coping mechanisms?

[ed-205]

I would point out that "normal" is different things to different people. I think a normal healthy home environment is one where the members love and support each other, where they feel safe and secure both emotionally and physically, and work together to keep things that way. As long as they can accomplish that, it doesn't much matter how they do it.

[vintagecat]

I don't believe in "normal" as a standard as it is the cause of much unhappiness when life doesn't measure up to arbitrary preset conventions even when one isn't likely to be made happy by accepted societal norms.

 

Likewise in the pursuit of the goal of the normality of a middle class American white, heterosexual married couple with 2.5 kids and a dog as a standard, I've seen more than one seemingly "normal" family who's facade masks some pretty horrific dysfunctions. Movies like American Beauty aren't pulled from the ether but rather are a portrait of the wages paid in homage to the pursuit of measuring up to "normal" rather than healthy and loving standards. This holds true for any other pre-set arbitrary standard of norms as defined in the various conventions in communities one might find themselves in. Much unhappiness can result in attempting to adopt or conform to community norms especially when one is not particularly suited to those standards in the first place.

 

I prefer to see it as ed-205 summed up nicely in a nutshell.

 

Love, respect, acceptance and mutual support and aid are most important indictors of a "healthy" home and I might add that it is possible to have a healthy home life solo or with a pet/s augmented with relationships with friends living outside the home should a person find themselves without a domestic partner or family.

 

I'm curious. Why do you ask?

[me4u2]

I would point out that "normal" is different things to different people. I think a normal healthy home environment is one where the members love and support each other, where they feel safe and secure both emotionally and physically, and work together to keep things that way. As long as they can accomplish that, it doesn't much matter how they do it.

 

 

Excellent and I'd have to agree. I think keeping it that way is harder than it sounds. I've been married 18 years and things have been fading for many years now. Is our home environment healthy? Probably not entirely, but it's not apparent to the children, it's a spouse thing. I think when things start to get consistently crazy to the point that the children are affected, that's when you cross over to the unhealthy side.

[leocell]

I can't set the normal standard as everyone has a different one. But I think my ideal healthy home environment would consist of family members who would just simply accept each other as they are, no need to wear any masks in the environment, where you can just be yourself happily without the fear of being judged, or accused of something that you are not. Where you can talk and discuss anything, a place with the people you know who will always be there for you to support you, even if you have been wrong.

 

I guess that's my ideal home. I think I will try to create one like that if I have the chance

[wierdmunky]

That's an open question.

 

People are going to have different opinions or rather biases based on their own experiences growing up, religious upbringing, their societal influence etc. Someone who grew up in Afghanistan during the 1980's will have different opinions compared to someone who grew up in England in the same time frame.

 

Personally, I believe that ever household should ideally should have two parents. Men should lead but otherwise be willing to compromise with their women. Women should be able to lead as well, especially in the absence of their man. See, some folks are already cringing...

 

I believe that a married man and woman should maintain a monogamous relationship; be willing to do what's necessary to keep that relationship healthy and beneficial so long as one's beliefs/morals aren't compromised.

 

and the list could go on...

 

 

Well, I was asking what was THE most basic things we need today for a normal healthy environment in a home.

 

Taking your question a step further. How does one's belief on what is a good, stable household affect our relationship when they become more serious? Should we adjust? Coping mechanisms?

 

That is one of the things I would love to talk about before I get married. lol.

One, I think it's interesting. I don't know how well we would follow through but I know I want to change things from the way that I was brought up.

 

Everyone's home is so different, and I always find some fault in the way they handle each other, and know why their kid (or my friend) acts a certain way that they don't like.

 

I can't stand the parent nazi's. They just seem so oblivious. I think a home is so important to peoples well being and most people ignore it, or don't know how to handle other peoples feelings in a home. They're just comfortable.

[georgejungle]

a family where you "communicate" and

"Listen". A loving and caring mom and dad is

ideal.

[Eve]

With our children we have always told them that their home will be better than ours. We sincerely hope that this overcomes the need for normalcy and helps each one of our babies to recognise the benefits of their faith, hope and love..Regards,Eve xx