Trialbyfire Posted November 2, 2008 Share Posted November 2, 2008 The f-ing a-hole finally admitted what was "distracting" him... his f-ing real estate agent! Lying son of a B! He's walking the property with her today and he actually thinks he can come over after? What a sack of Sh*t! I have not known hatred but I think I feel it now. A-hole. I hate him, I actually think I do! What the hell do I do now? So he's been juggling between his real estate agent and you? Do you have proof of this or is it possible that it's purely a business relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
Author bubblegum Posted November 2, 2008 Author Share Posted November 2, 2008 He told me straight out. I'm so sad. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bubblegum Posted November 2, 2008 Author Share Posted November 2, 2008 Oh but he pretends they just slept together, not doing it anymore. Ha! What a liar! Who cares anyway... the damage has been done. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 2, 2008 Share Posted November 2, 2008 Okay, hang on. So, he was sleeping with her when the two of you were together or had broken up? Link to post Share on other sites
Author bubblegum Posted November 2, 2008 Author Share Posted November 2, 2008 When we were together. I'm freaking out. I'm dying. Oh god please help me. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 2, 2008 Share Posted November 2, 2008 Had I known this before, my advice would have been to ditch him and never look back. This isn't about pride or any of the issues previously mentioned. Cheaters are broken inside. If you really want to call him on it and the two of you are honestly in an exclusive, committed relationship, suggest you join them in their viewing of the property. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bubblegum Posted November 2, 2008 Author Share Posted November 2, 2008 I can't, he's gone already. I guess I have no choice but to never look back? I'm dumbfounded. Literally. I don't know what to do. Please help me! I've never been cheated on, that I know of. I don't know what to do. I feel like such a loser. Help? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 2, 2008 Share Posted November 2, 2008 You don't even know if he's really cheating on you right now. You're assuming, which could easily be wrong. Having said all that, he's cheated on you before but what's really difficult, is that you've yet to provide the entire story and there's no way I'm going to read everything you've posted, in other threads, in order to get a full story if it's even there. Also, I'm not going to ask 40 questions to get the full story. So cough up the significant details. Did he really cheat on you in the past or was it that the two of you weren't in an exclusive relationship through non-discussion of commitment, solely assumption? I'm getting a really strong feeling that communication isn't either one of your strongest suits. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bubblegum Posted November 2, 2008 Author Share Posted November 2, 2008 We were exclusive. But I guess he lied about that. He pushed me away by causing arguments over nothing. I ignored that, for a long time, like a loser. I would do anything to keep us together. And I think he knew that, pushed me harder. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bubblegum Posted November 2, 2008 Author Share Posted November 2, 2008 Anybody? Any advice please? Link to post Share on other sites
MichiganMan222 Posted November 2, 2008 Share Posted November 2, 2008 Sounds to me like he just wants to be with this other person and is intentionally creating a wedge until you dump him. Then no guilt on his part. My ex tried that, but I wouldn't dump her. I kept trying. Finally she ended it herself and began dating him days later. The only thing I hate worse than relationships right now is being single LMAO!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
lofi_tokyo Posted November 2, 2008 Share Posted November 2, 2008 The only thing I hate worse than relationships right now is being single LMAO!!!! Being single can be fun! Think of all the flirting you can do now! Link to post Share on other sites
Author bubblegum Posted November 2, 2008 Author Share Posted November 2, 2008 Sounds to me like he just wants to be with this other person and is intentionally creating a wedge until you dump him. Then no guilt on his part. My ex tried that, but I wouldn't dump her. I kept trying. Finally she ended it herself and began dating him days later. The only thing I hate worse than relationships right now is being single LMAO!!!! Oh wow so you think he kept it a secret until the last minute when he could force me to break up with him? Link to post Share on other sites
MichiganMan222 Posted November 2, 2008 Share Posted November 2, 2008 Well just a theory because it sounds eerily close to what happened to me. Someone else in the picture....no cheating, but she pushed me away and away and away. I wouldn't go away and kept trying and finally she dropped the hammer herself. As I mentioned, they were together days later. One thing I regret now....my trying made me do things out of character. I suspected this guy was a big problem. I snooped. I accused. I fought. That process made her perception of me go in the dumper. Had I bowed out graciously, the same thing would've happened, only I think its possible she felt she made a mistake and perhaps decide to end things with him and try again with me. There's was no doubt she was in love with me. She just couldn't take the stress of the relationship due to external circumstances. But I kinda blew that chance by acting like a psycho the last couple of weeks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bubblegum Posted November 2, 2008 Author Share Posted November 2, 2008 So what do you suggest I do? I'm sorry you had to go through all that, but it's sweet actually. Link to post Share on other sites
lofi_tokyo Posted November 2, 2008 Share Posted November 2, 2008 Well just a theory because it sounds eerily close to what happened to me. Someone else in the picture....no cheating, but she pushed me away and away and away. I wouldn't go away and kept trying and finally she dropped the hammer herself. As I mentioned, they were together days later. One thing I regret now....my trying made me do things out of character. I suspected this guy was a big problem. I snooped. I accused. I fought. That process made her perception of me go in the dumper. Had I bowed out graciously, the same thing would've happened, only I think its possible she felt she made a mistake and perhaps decide to end things with him and try again with me. There's was no doubt she was in love with me. She just couldn't take the stress of the relationship due to external circumstances. But I kinda blew that chance by acting like a psycho the last couple of weeks. I guess my one saving grace was that when my ex was trying to make me dump him - he succeeded. I did NOT want the split. But I did it because he was treating me sooo badly. He would sit me down next to him at his computer and flirt with the girl he was cheating on me with. When he went to have sex with me he told her "I have go do something". I have a name *******! So I dumped him. Then immediately begged for him back. Frantically. Over and over. I convinced him to come back. Then a day later I was like "yeah its not gonna work". Overall though, he dumped me in my mind, and I'm sure in his mind too. He wanted the breakup, not me. I just broke up because I'm a human being, someone he loved once, but he sure as hell wasn't showing it. He treated me like trash those last few days. So... Yeah I dunno. I was gonna say maybe he'll come back and miss me, maybe he wont but honestly... who the **** cares. After that ****? Seriously? He still tries to contact me and I just ignore him. In this moment I am so done with him and don't want him back. Whew! Hope it sticks! Link to post Share on other sites
Author bubblegum Posted November 2, 2008 Author Share Posted November 2, 2008 What a d*ck. That's how I feel. What should I do? Call him back and let him know what I think or just never talk to him again? Link to post Share on other sites
lofi_tokyo Posted November 2, 2008 Share Posted November 2, 2008 Dont talk to him ever again. Trust me, when he calls you and you ignore him not because you have to but because you just dont give a care anymore? Wow. It feels incredible. I guess I still care about my ex. I do. But... Its over now! Id say 90% of me does not like him in that way. Keep up NC, you'll get there. You'll have angry days where you just wanna tear him to shreds. Post here. Don't break NC. It will foil your satisfaction in the end. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bubblegum Posted November 2, 2008 Author Share Posted November 2, 2008 I want to tear him to shreds right now. I'm so pissed! I'm so hurt! What a jerk. Is it really better to stay quiet? Link to post Share on other sites
lofi_tokyo Posted November 2, 2008 Share Posted November 2, 2008 Yes yes yes! Do not break NC! Post your rant on the coping forum. Let it out! But DO NOT contact your ex. Why? Because you are better than that jerk. He does not deserve to hear from you. By breaking NC, you're giving something up for him. Well don't. NC is your shield, don't let it crack! Link to post Share on other sites
Author bubblegum Posted November 2, 2008 Author Share Posted November 2, 2008 I guess? But I want to make him hear how much he's hurt me. What a total selfish prick he's been. What a di*k what a di*k! I guess I shouldn't if you say so? I'm hanging on a thread here (haha not meant to be funny) I just don't have anyone else to turn to for help. I can't believe it. I'm sorry Tokyo that this happened to you. I can't believe there are so many people that get hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bubblegum Posted November 2, 2008 Author Share Posted November 2, 2008 He texted me this morning actually saying he wants to get together tonight... after all this crap! So I should ignore him from here on out? Link to post Share on other sites
MichiganMan222 Posted November 3, 2008 Share Posted November 3, 2008 Don't do it. For two reasons...you're so pissed off at him it will only be ugly and painful for you....plus, he probably just wants to make sure you're there in case his new woman doesn't work out. Don't wait on deck. Find a new team and be their star hitting (sorry for the corny baseball analogy). Now.....if you REEEEEALLY want to give him a second chance, ignoring this is still good. He will contact you again later. You have nothing to lose by ignoring him. If he never contacts you again, this contact by him didn't mean chit. Oh and I'm curious...when I explained my story, you said that was sweet....what did you mean exactly? Link to post Share on other sites
cashley Posted November 3, 2008 Share Posted November 3, 2008 He obviosly a chithead. sorry. If you want to be strung along forever, keep seeing this 'abusive guy'..by saying 'its hard to be with you when your like this'.....hes just given that much away. Defering the guilt onto you....been there, had that done to me. He has admitted to sleeping with this RE agent? if so, its probably still going on, because RE agents are dime a dozen, and he could and would have found another... I agree with most everyone, he deserves NC. For ages. If he returns, then maybe listen, but leave it until you dont feel emotional. GOODLUCK. MICHIGAN MAN..i hear you! i think your story was sweet, showing you had faith and passion..its sad too. my ex pushed me away, because he didnt want to be the breaker upperer. He was an ass and so eventually I left, and not long after he had shacked up with another woman..just waiting for me to leave town. I too went a little crazy... Link to post Share on other sites
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