Is this positive and could it lead to more things? Or do I have to be more proactive?

[renaissancewoman101]

I went to fencing practice this afternoon even though it is not something I normally do. I had a great time there, practiced some stuff and learned more stuff from some seasoned veterans. The guy I liked showed up halfway through practice. I didn't know that he was that seasoned of a fencer but I found out today when one of the really seasoned ones had him explain some stuff to me. He was really good and careful in explaining things. During parts of practice, he would point out to me and others, what I could be good for (esp with my height). After we all did some fighting, he joked around with me (joked with me about "kidnapping" me and bringing me to an event), chatted with me (but we were all in a group). He did bring up a bit of his love of WoW, but he did it in a subtle way. I did drop a hint that I spend a lot of time on the computer online doing chats and stuff (then he make some funny crack about me being these women online who were hitting on him):-k

 

He did admire the gloves I had and asked me where I got them. I told them that I got them at the last "war" and he made a funny comment about that he should have gone shopping with me. One of the ladies there (who was at war with me), mentioned that she left me with him and his buddies that night to go partying and he said I went off on my own, stuff like that.

 

We all played around a bit, chatted, and the hours flew by. I didn't leave till most of the people had left. It was just me, him, this other girl, and two other guys. We chatted about fencing and stuff and then I said I was leaving and that I would see them all on Wed night practice. I said it to the group in general, but he answered back that he might not be at Wed night practice:-k. That puzzled me since I didn't mean it for him, but for the whole group.

 

Overall, he was nice to me, chatted with me, and joked around with me, more than the others, it seems. He also made some cracks about himself not being attractive to girls to date, and stuff like that. But he said that in general.

 

In many ways, he is so much like my ex (which is a good thing and a NOT so good thing). He has a tendency to put himself down a lot, sometimes unconsciously.

 

I dunno. I do know one of the younger ladies there at practice also plays WoW with him and his buddies. I was able to get that from things they were saying.

 

Now I have to try to make it more to Sunday afternoon practice, since he's there more often (it seems) than Wed night practice.

 

What would you guys take the interaction as? Friendly? Interest? He did look me in the eyes when he talked to me, and I did somewhat "flirt" with him and joke around with him (something that I do have a HARD time doing).

[Lovegod]

Sounds like he's interested. If I were you, I'd make a move.

 

He has a tendency to put himself down a lot, sometimes unconsciously.

 

The only red flag, but there's a lot of guys out there who do this. No man is perfect like me

 

If his self put-downs get irritating, then ditch him.

[renaissancewoman101]

Lovegod, I'm not going to make a move on him. A mutual friend told me that he would probably freak at that. She suggest that I hang out with him more, get to know him better and let him get to know me. And after a while of that, THEN ask him out. Not right away.

 

I don't mind. To me, good things come to those who wait.

[Lovegod]

I'm not going to make a move on him. A mutual friend told me that he would probably freak at that.

 

If I were you, I'd tell your mutual friend to keep their nose out of my business.

 

Why would anybody, especially A MAN freak from having a woman be attracted to him? And from the sounds of it, a woman that he is enjoying spending time with.

 

Am I correct at guessing that this mutual friend is a woman? Men don't generally say crap like that because men don't 'freak' when a woman is attracted to them.

 

My policy for when you meet someone you like is to get the ball rolling as soon as possible. Strike when the iron is hot. If you don't, there's a good chance someone else will beat you to the punch and you'll miss out.