precious1357 Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 Well, its over...yesterday child of MM threatened to kill me...I can't take any more. It was truly awful Link to post Share on other sites
jj33 Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 Oh my. Are you OK? how did that happen???? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 Did you talk to him about this? The anger should really be directed at the MM, the kids father. He is the one who is cheating on his wife, betraying the whole family. Yes, you're his affair partner, but he owes THEM an explanation. Aren't his kids young adults? Stay safe, and if you haven't already, call the police. Link to post Share on other sites
jwi71 Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 Well, its over...yesterday child of MM threatened to kill me...I can't take any more. It was truly awful Is the child old enough to carry it out? Do you truly feel threatened or was this simply an angry outburst? And, I disagree with the above posters...you are guilty of bringing this on yourself. From the kids perspective...you broke up the marriage and caused all the pain. If its an angry outburst by a child...then its understandable. Not acceptable - understandable. Link to post Share on other sites
jj33 Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 Oh come on. You dont know what happened. To have someone threaten to kill you if its more than the mere words of a child is never excusable. These days there are too many teenagers perfectly capable of carrying out that threat. And no she did not bring it on herself. Shes not the married one. If he wants to kill anyone it should be his father for cheating on his mother. Understandable that the anger would be misplaced but if the threat is real it doesnt make it any less frightening or unacceptable. Link to post Share on other sites
marriedandsad Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 (((hugs))). It is NEVER fun when someone threatens to kill you. Your stomach goes into your throat and your heart begins to race, then the cold sweat begins. Even if it doesn't seem serious, it's still terrifying. OP, if the child is an adult, or even a teenager, I hate to say it, create a paper trail, file a police report. My best friend's wife has threatened to kill me, we aren't having any type of affair, but she wants to blame someone for him leaving her, therefore it's going to be me. She called me at 2am threatening to kill me, I called the police immediately and created a paper trail. She stopped as soon as the police contacted her and told her to cut it out and that's it's very very serious to threaten to kill someone, serious or not. I'm sorry that this had to happen though Maybe now you can move on with someone unattached/unmarried and have a very fulfilling happy life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author precious1357 Posted October 27, 2008 Author Share Posted October 27, 2008 Well, let me tell you all just how awful it really is! First, this relationship has been going on about 2.5 yrs. I'm over 50 and he's over 60, he has been married for 42 years. The child is 40 years old, who showed me the gun while telling me what an awful person I was and that I was not going to heaven and how i have caused havoc in the mother's home. So, after all of that being i felt and still feel terrible, crying most of the day (yet working)...its was the most brutal and awful experience of my life. I told MM and he was devastated to know that happened and was without words. decided it was not worth it.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author precious1357 Posted October 27, 2008 Author Share Posted October 27, 2008 (((hugs))). It is NEVER fun when someone threatens to kill you. Your stomach goes into your throat and your heart begins to race, then the cold sweat begins. Even if it doesn't seem serious, it's still terrifying. OP, if the child is an adult, or even a teenager, I hate to say it, create a paper trail, file a police report. My best friend's wife has threatened to kill me, we aren't having any type of affair, but she wants to blame someone for him leaving her, therefore it's going to be me. She called me at 2am threatening to kill me, I called the police immediately and created a paper trail. She stopped as soon as the police contacted her and told her to cut it out and that's it's very very serious to threaten to kill someone, serious or not. I'm sorry that this had to happen though Maybe now you can move on with someone unattached/unmarried and have a very fulfilling happy life. Thanks, we were very realistically happy. Community ties are stronger though. The adult child is well known and has a lot of pull...can't fight him and i do not want my family/friends to get involved. Link to post Share on other sites
jwi71 Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 Sorry if I wasnt clear. I don't know the age of the children in question. A 6 year old is lashing out in anger at the one who broke up his world from his perspective. Wrong? Yes. Will the child act on it - not very likely. A 13 year is an entirely different story... And if its lashing out, its entirely understandable. Acceptable - no. If the OP feels the threat is real...then yes, immediately call the police and stay away. EDIT-- I just saw the OP post. 1) Call the police. Now. Do this for your own personal safety. 2) Stay very far away. This is a real threat, not from a child or even a teenager. A grown man with the means to make good on it. 3) Call the police. 4) Call the police. Link to post Share on other sites
marriedandsad Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 Thanks, we were very realistically happy. Community ties are stronger though. The adult child is well known and has a lot of pull...can't fight him and i do not want my family/friends to get involved. Your MM ALSO should be telling his ADULT son the ramifications of making a very real and very serious threat. He showed you the gun!!!!!! By all means call the police. He threatened you with a deadly weapon. Yes your actions HELPED contribute to "havoc" in his mother's home....but his father is also 50% responsible for that "havoc". PLEASE call the police hon. Too many times around here have I seen police reports where someone didn't take the threat seriously and ended up wounded or killed. I know I might get blasted because you are the OW and some might feel you have it coming to you, but losing your life is never fair retribution for an affair. Link to post Share on other sites
wildsoul Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 A 40 year old adult, who showed you an actual gun? Call the police. Today. You need to file a report. No kidding. Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 Two things...I agree with the poster who suggested that you go to the police. You've been threatened by a 40 year old man with a gun. Its that simple. Second thought...your thoughts that its time to move on are probably very correct as well. Link to post Share on other sites
marriedandsad Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 omg, you must've really hurt and torn that family apart. i hope from now on you choose from a pool of AVAILABLE men, not ones with families! How did the OP ALONE tear that family apart? The MM has just as much responsiblity as she does. And how does that justify what the adult child did? Does what her and the MM did somehow allow for him to pull a gun out and say he'll kill her? Wow...when did that become a rule? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 Second thought...your thoughts that its time to move on are probably very correct as well. I agree. This MM is NEVER going to leave his wife, especially since he's in his 60's and been married for 40+ years. He's settled in his life, too old to make life changing decisions. What he needs to do is talk to his son about the death threat and also come clean with his wife about his affair with you. Maybe his wife will let him continue the A, or maybe she'll want a divorce. Is being the OW OK with you? Or do you want him divorced and to be your husband? I ask this because it's no longer 'safe' for you to be in his life, especially since his son has threatened you. Honestly, who cares if his son is well known and has a lot of pull. Are you implying he's a police officer or something? If so, then you definately need to speak to a lawyer as well. Link to post Share on other sites
stampdaddy Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 what do you mean he "showed you the gun"? Did he like flap open his trenchcoat and showed it was there on his hip? OR did he point it at you? Link to post Share on other sites
Mino Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 Your MM ALSO should be telling his ADULT son the ramifications of making a very real and very serious threat. He showed you the gun!!!!!! By all means call the police. He threatened you with a deadly weapon. Yes your actions HELPED contribute to "havoc" in his mother's home....but his father is also 50% responsible for that "havoc". PLEASE call the police hon. Too many times around here have I seen police reports where someone didn't take the threat seriously and ended up wounded or killed. I know I might get blasted because you are the OW and some might feel you have it coming to you, but losing your life is never fair retribution for an affair. You might get blasted???????? H E L L O .... Y O U R O N T H E O/ W B O A R D!!!!!! are we a bit paranoid???? Sombody may see you talking to us???Too funny... Link to post Share on other sites
Mino Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 Well, its over...yesterday child of MM threatened to kill me...I can't take any more. It was truly awful Go to the police now and file a report and get a restraining out today!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 Go to the police now and file a report and get a restraining out today!!!!! This will only work and make sense IF she completely ends it with the MM. If she plans on carrying on the A, and the MM does nothing to talk to his son about this, then things WILL get worse. MM needs to step up and decide WHO he wants, enough of having two women meeting all his needs because he's too afraid to change his life around. Link to post Share on other sites
stampdaddy Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 I woulda pulled some deft Steven Seagal like moves and beat him to death with his own fistesses.... Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 The pony-tailed wonder actually has never studied martial arts. Its all sweet choreography. This is just one of those situations where you have to ask yourself..."what would Owl do if he were here?" Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 what would Owl do if he were here?" Or Brian Boitano..(south park humour) Link to post Share on other sites
stampdaddy Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 The pony-tailed wonder actually has never studied martial arts. Its all sweet choreography. This is just one of those situations where you have to ask yourself..."what would Owl do if he were here?" you would have pecked that pecker... Link to post Share on other sites
mrmatt Posted October 27, 2008 Share Posted October 27, 2008 Ummmm....call the police...TWICE Link to post Share on other sites
marriedandsad Posted October 28, 2008 Share Posted October 28, 2008 thats the consequences you are faced with when carrying out an affair OPENLY! she's an adult and im not going to let her cry on my shoulder. the mother must've been devastated and might have contemplated suicide herself. i can care less what happens to a grown adult who continually tries to tug on a married man's di*k. wow.. someone threatened her... boo hoo.. run to the police already instead of trying to draw sympathy from online strangers. ridiculous Then you my friend found the wrong board. Check the title before you make such inflammatory remarks. And we don't know the situation with the MM and his Wife. For all we know she's an abusive wench. It's quite the interesting assumption you are making there. Oh and to the other poster about me getting blasted.....ROFL!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Karma101 Posted October 28, 2008 Share Posted October 28, 2008 thats the consequences you are faced with when carrying out an affair OPENLY! she's an adult and im not going to let her cry on my shoulder. the mother must've been devastated and might have contemplated suicide herself. i can care less what happens to a grown adult who continually tries to tug on a married man's di*k. wow.. someone threatened her... boo hoo.. run to the police already instead of trying to draw sympathy from online strangers. ridiculous Good grief. I know emotions run high on both sides of the fence when discussing affairs, but your post makes me wonder if complete ignorance is not more offending than the actual act of infidelity itself. Link to post Share on other sites
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