Still having problems with Brother-In-Law

[Zolar]

I'm still having problems with my DH's brother. He and his girlfriend removed their stuff from the house and promised my DH that they wouldn't come to the house to get any of their crap out of the garage without calling first. But, he keeps coming to the house! Twice yesterday and again this a.m., even after I pulled the electrical plug on the garage door. He has a garage door opener and has previously stored some of his work stuff in our garage. We've been trying to get him out for months.

 

A couple of weeks ago both of them came into the house while I was sleeping. (You may recall I had a very frightening late-term miscarriage that came after a violent assault involving police "misidentifying" us at a garage sale and allowing me to be held at gun-point by some maniac. So, I'm not taking noises and intrusions as well as usual right now.) I lost it and threw their crap (that was already supposed to be out of the house) into our attached garage.

 

I unplugged the electrical mechanism again. And I locked the door that goes from the interior of the house to the garage. I told DH, but he just gets upset - just upset. He doesn't get upset at me - just upset. He can't control these people and even now, I feel completely unprotected.

 

I am leaving this god-awful City (Houston) in a few days to go back up to where I'm originally from - nice and peaceful there. No intrusions. No robocops. And we are working on getting the Houston house leased out. But, I told him, I'm afraid to do much here at the house until right before he leases it because that brother of his and his girlfriend will be running around through here breaking things and making messes. I have been too sick to clean anything much, but I don't want to clean things in the kitchen or the bathrooms just to have them ruined again as soon as I leave for a couple of weeks.

 

How to deal with these people!!! And, why can't he make them behave??? Again - and if I get any racist B.S. from people I'm going to be pissed and I will make sure that the moderators delete it, just so you're forewarned - they are from Mexico. I have to wonder if this is some part of the culture that I just cannot grasp? I can't understand how this brother and other relatives can have this much power over him.

 

I told him that I'm not going to say another word about it. If they kill me, then so be it. Apparently, that's how things are and I have to accept it. Nobody cares if I die (btw, I've been suffering severe angina every since the assault that worsens with fright or stress. I guess it's not anyone else's pain, no one else feels it, so who cares???) I don't care what happens with them or if he sees my point of view on this or not as long as we get what is left of our family out of this nightmare city as quickly as possible. But, his bro and the girlfriend are evil people. Why can't they just leave me alone?! Part of me thinks it is an intentional plot to gaslight me and drive me away and that his parents are behind it all. (MIL saying she was going to take my baby, other weird family behavior makes me say this. I'm scared of these people and don't understand why he can't see what they are.)