She wants to see me but there are some big problems

[Jay34]

we have been in a long distance relationship for over a year, we have seen each other only twice, both times i have gone to her and spent the bulk of the money, because at the time she was at school and working while i was just working, but either way after our last visit she said she was definetly going to see me, and most likely around december, one huge problem is her parents we are both only 20 and i am a 3 hour flight away, they are not too happy with this, the 2nd is she doesn't really have the money, i have a free flight so i offered it to her and since i live at home as well we may need a hotel, i am fine with paying at least half and i always seem to be able to get good deals so i figure between the flight and hotel it will be 450, and staying a few days at my house, now i know this is an awkward situation but its the only option i have, she often gets stressed when i bring it up because her parents are so against it and money is tight, she recently told me she might not be able to come in december, and we might have to wait a few months, i really don't want to wait that long because i feel like visiting on a constant basis will help keep this together, her parents are the type to threaten to take away everything including her car if she doesn't obey them, this makes it even harder, the thing is though i dont see it changing for the next 1-2 years until she finds a place, when i met her she lived alone, but the problem is id really like her to go against them for once, if this truly is what she wants to do, is there anyway we can work this out, i am even willing to put the money up for half the hotels because i know her situation, but i dont want to seem like i am bugging her, i just would like to get this thing planned in the next 2-3 weeks, i always think it makes me feel better to have that date to look forward too, it seems so damn hard sometimes, how can i get her to realize how important it is to do this. because i feel like im giving 100% and she is giving 10, we have a great bond, this distance is messing it all up, i just want to spend the holidays with her and show her a good time, otherwise our next visit will be like last time so many months away, so much can happen in that time.does anyone have any advice, another thing is how can we keep things fresh and interesting, talking every day she just doesn't seem to be interested and its definetly not the same as the first 6-8 months, we used to talk 8 hours a day now it might be 1-2 and sometimes she seems irritated to be on the phone, some days shes up somedays shes down, and all this has happened since she moved home, her parents really seem to have a negative effect on her, she goes back into her shell and acts like a child almost.

 

Thanks