dartanyan Posted October 29, 2008 Share Posted October 29, 2008 I suffer from retroactive jealous of my girlfriend's past much like many others on these threads. I desperately want to get better. I often obsess over her past, snoop and generally spend a lot of time worried about stuff that is now over and done with. Please. If you have gone thru this and made it out what did you do? Are there any books that can help? Is there a type of therapy/approach that works well here? Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted October 30, 2008 Share Posted October 30, 2008 Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) may prove useful -- it is that your thoughts are getting away from your ability to consciously manage them. Or you can try something that jasminetea posted about in another thread: "...is helping me enormously - the power pause - http://www.richbits.com/RBArchives/45sRB_powerpause.htm It's giving me the ability to stop my negative thought processes and change my state of mind. This means I can actually examine my thoughts and test how true they are. Needless to say, I'm able to discard those thoughts as fabrication and move on quicker. It takes practice, but it feels really nice, so its easy to do it. Even if it doesn't address everything you're going through, I hope that helps somewhat ." As she says, with practice you can regain control over those obsessive and circular thought patterns that are keeping you in a non-productive mindset. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
xtopher65 Posted October 30, 2008 Share Posted October 30, 2008 "Brain Lock" by Jeffery M. Schwartz Link to post Share on other sites
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