CS1976 Posted October 30, 2008 Share Posted October 30, 2008 I would love some good advice...this is long so bear with me. Sadly, I feel silly talking to anyone about this so I'm hoping some kind souls will lend me some words of wisdom I posted a few days ago about an online friendship. In a nutshell, I've been chatting with a guy from Spain every day for almost 4 months. He has eluded to having feelings for me through some of his comments...and I will be going to Spain in June, (not specifically to see him) however I will be staying a few hours away, so I thought it would be a great opportunity to meet. Here's the prediciment. I think I have feelings for him. But lately, (within the past few weeks) he has been very dry with me. Our conversations are not as personal and he no longer eludes to having feelings for me. I feel really silly having feelings for someone I have never met but we have an amazing connection, (conversationally of course.) Anyway, I'm dying to tell him how I feel. Is this a good idea? Or is it to premature and unrealistic to tell someone you don't even know that you have feelings? Am I crazy to have these feelings? We are both in our early 30s so this is certainly not a teenage crush. I'm scared If I say something I will scare him off. But I also wonder if he had feelings for me, but because of my unresponsive reactions to his comments, he feels I'm not interested and has given up. On a side note, he always initiates contact with me. In the 4 months we have been chatting, I have only initiated a chat with him twice. Please, please, please. How should I handle this? Or should I leave it alone and go with the flow? Is it even worth it? Link to post Share on other sites
motive2002 Posted October 30, 2008 Share Posted October 30, 2008 I'd say.. settle down. You're talking about someone you've never met in person. How deep can the feelings possibly go? This has happened to me before. I got all crazy about some chick that lived 2000 miles away, before we ever met in person. What happened in my case is that I idealized who she was based on the conversations we had. Trust me, in person things can be a WHOLE lot different. Cool your jets. Just my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CS1976 Posted October 30, 2008 Author Share Posted October 30, 2008 Thanks! These are things I need to hear. I think you are right...I may very well be in fantasy land Link to post Share on other sites
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