Author lofi_tokyo Posted November 1, 2008 Author Share Posted November 1, 2008 I'm currently faced with the same dilemma. My ex wants to come back, but I'm pretty sure that at this point this is just a narcissistic belief that she can make it work, once we put past "mistakes behind us". I still miss her, but unless she shows convincing ability to take responsibility for her feelings and actions, trying again will be the same disaster all over again. So the jury's out if this will work. It hinges on her particular actions/words. Didn't she leave you for someone else? NOW shes trying to come back like... 3-4 months later? Link to post Share on other sites
ashley83 Posted November 2, 2008 Share Posted November 2, 2008 They always come back. And usually their timing is atrocious. lol! sooo true Link to post Share on other sites
ioncebelieved Posted November 2, 2008 Share Posted November 2, 2008 I like this better! They DO NOT come back when you want them to. They DO when you don't want them to. Link to post Share on other sites
EmperorR Posted November 2, 2008 Share Posted November 2, 2008 I like this better! They DO NOT come back when you want them to. They DO when you don't want them to. I agree, why do I have this feeling, when I'm with someone new and feeling good about myself and have feelings or a new girl, my ex will call me Link to post Share on other sites
sunshinegirl Posted November 2, 2008 Share Posted November 2, 2008 Of my four serious relationships, 3 had second chances of some form or another - only one walked away and never came back. First BF: over a period of 2-3 years, we broke up and got back together twice before the final breakup 2nd BF: 6 month r'ship; he walked away, never came back 3rd BF: mutual breakup after 3 months; then had 9 months of ambiguous friendship before he started dating someone else; over two years later he said he made a mistake in never giving us a second chance 4th BF (this ex): after 4 months together, broke up in May 07; he came back and we were back together in July 07. Broke up for good May 08. Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted November 2, 2008 Share Posted November 2, 2008 I like this better! They DO NOT come back when you want them to. They DO when you don't want them to. IOB, I think that's oversimplifying it a bit. I DON'T want my ex to come back... does that mean she will? NO. She won't. And I really don't give a sh*t and it feels great! Good riddance to anyone who decides I'm not good enough for them. Link to post Share on other sites
ioncebelieved Posted November 2, 2008 Share Posted November 2, 2008 IOB, I think that's oversimplifying it a bit. I DON'T want my ex to come back... does that mean she will? NO. She won't. And I really don't give a sh*t and it feels great! Good riddance to anyone who decides I'm not good enough for them. No doubt! Because there is no guarantee they will come back at all. Glad to see you back on here some K! Chances are likely they will not. Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted November 2, 2008 Share Posted November 2, 2008 ...there is no guarantee they will come back at all. Not only is there no guarantee they will come back, chances are highly unlikely that they will ever contact you again, let alone ask for a reconciliation. I want to make that very clear to anyone reading this holding out hope. IT'S OVER - time to start moving on. If you hold onto that hope, it's going to prolong your healing process A LONG TIME. So, let it go, brush ya shoulders off, and tell yourself how awesome you are. Work on your career and your school. Be pleasant. And understand that the person you were with is LONG GONE, and have been mentally for some time already. Link to post Share on other sites
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