Boyfriend still talks to ex. ?!!

[Kimora]

I have been with my boyfriend for five months now and we are in love with each other. He told me he broke up with his girlfriend before he came to the US. He told me he didn't love her and they were dating "kind of not really"

Anyway, I saw a conversation he was having with her just recently and he said that "she was and still is the most beautiful, smart, woman he has ever met"

 

this made me mad/sad/hurt all at the same because he says the very same thing to me all the time. He also says he misses her and right before he said she the most beautiful ever he siad he wanted to call her and tell but decided to tell her online.

 

When I told him about it he said he was sorry and he didn't mean it and htat he feels bad for his ex because she is being forced to get married soon and she really isn't that good looking so to make her feel better he said that. He says that she talks to him first online and he feels bad and talks to her

 

I don't know what to think, he talks to her quite frequently and even though they are 8 thousand miles away i still feel he misses her and is on a rebound.

 

this hurt me deeply because he is the first man ever to love me and care about me, so by him saying this to me and then turning around saying it carelessly to his ex really hurts.

 

is he being truthful or is he just a player???

[TigerCub]

How does it help her situation if this girl is being forced to marry someone and her ex tells her that he misses her and thinks that she's the most beautiful woman he's ever known and that he wishes he could talk to her? Wouldn't that actually make her feel worse because she is being forced to marry someone she doesn't want?

I think your boyfriend is just full of ****...don't believe his stupid lies.

 

Because the ex is miles and miles away, I wouldn't see her as the threat, but I'd definitely see his actions as the reason to drop him.

[Jay34]

if this is the first incident give him a chance, but tell him to please not talk to his ex anymore, it never is good!

[MichelleS1983]

Tiger is absolutely right - what a complete load of garbage this guy is feeding you. He's pining for his old girlfriend whose 8,000 miles away. The fact that she IS that far away is pure circumstance working in your favor. It appears that the distance is the ONLY reason he's not with her.

 

And if he only told her she's the most wonderful, beautiful woman in the world "to make her FEEL better," like he claims, then why did he say it about her to you FIRST, before even telling her?

 

The writing is SO on the wall here.

 

Is he a player? No, I don't get 'player' out of his sneaky behavior. What I DO get however - and it's loud and clear - is that you're simply a replacement for the girl he can no longer have due to distance. You're Plan B, the Rebound Girl.

 

You seem like a sweet, lovely young lady Kimora, but I don't for one minute believe your boyfriend's love and loyalty are with you. And he's disrespecting you horribly by openly directing all his attention and affection towards his ex-girlfriend while basically telling you, "too bad..this is the way it's going to be."