lostandlonely2 Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 Two strikes you're out? A few days ago, I chatted with this woman on an internet dating site I am a member of, and she invited me out for a late drink after dinner with some friends at 9:30 Friday night. So about 9pm, I drove into the city, found a parking place (took about 30 minutes all up) and just as I was walking to the place we arranged when she texted that she was going to go out with her friends instead I called her, but she didn't answer, so I left a message saying that was fine (even though I felt it wasn’t very nice) and that maybe we could have coffee on the weekend. She texted back the next day on Saturday saying she couldn’t then but Sunday at 3pm was good, so I texted back a cafe and she replied that it was a date! On Sunday at 2pm I got a text saying that she had a bug and needed to rest and that could we meet at the same time & place next weekend... Now this is my dilemma: 1) Sometimes I get the feeling women on internet dating sites don’t really ever want to meet someone, they just want the attention and thrill of thinking that they are wanted... 2) And If she has stood me up twice, shall I give her another chance, or tell her she is rather rude and inconsiderate and should remain single so as to avoid inflicting her selfishness on anyone. So at what point is it ok to point out to someone that they are rude and selfish, and does that have to write off any chance of ever meeting them? Because my feeling is that if you don't call them on it now, you are just adverstising that you are a doormat they can walk all over (maybe they are even testing you for that to see what they can get away with in a realtionship before they even meet you)? Thanks for the advice...
V.Vixen Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 Some do, some don't. same goes for guys. I know I don't like to have an internet relationship and like to meet face to face pretty quickly if I like a guy. I don't want to waste time talking to him on the internet if we aren't even compatible IRL. She has cold feet. I guarantee you. If she asks you, then I would say give it one more shot. If not, move on.
Dark-N-Romantic Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 I personally, depending on how hard up I am for a date wouldn't have asked her out the second time. So, this dicision you are going to have to make on your own. But, she has already set up a track record with you. So, before you go spending money, make sure she's there first. But, to answer your question of your post, from my experience, women on internet dating sites are looking for any guy but me.:lmao: DNR
Shygirl15 Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 I'm one of those who went online recently but wasn't really prepared to meet. Simple reason is that I felt insecure with the guy I was seeing and needed some back-up plan. Yeah. Insensitive, inconsiderate, whatever.
Dark-N-Romantic Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 I'm one of those who went online recently but wasn't really prepared to meet. Simple reason is that I felt insecure with the guy I was seeing and needed some back-up plan. Yeah. Insensitive, inconsiderate, whatever. Just as long as you don't get mad when if, or when, a guy does that to you. All's fair, right? DNR
Bells Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 I'm one of those who went online recently but wasn't really prepared to meet. Simple reason is that I felt insecure with the guy I was seeing and needed some back-up plan. Yeah. Insensitive, inconsiderate, whatever. Ah, her true colors show even more. I think Shygirl is one of those "internet chicks" that all people complain about on dating websites. The kind of internet chick we should all avoid and other people have warned us about.
Shygirl15 Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 Oh, but they can't resist me... Sorry buddy.
monkey00 Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 Some girls and guys use it to boost their ego. Especially on the free dating sites. So if you're interested in finding someone who's genuine and really out to meet someone, I'd suggest a pay for one...at least you know they're paying to make some kind of investment, though not entirely guaranteed they won't pull the ego thing. Best way if you ask me is to meet people the old fashioned way.
Dark-N-Romantic Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 Oh, but they can't resist me... Sorry buddy. They are weak and/or know no better, it also helps that you are lying to them too. Sad that they victims, when all they may want to do is be the man your last one wasn't. But, then again, who knows, sometimes karma does comeback and sometimes a lot harsher than what was expected. DNR
Shygirl15 Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 No, I didn't lie to them. I clearly told them I'm dating however not sure where it was heading, but suprisingly all of them still wanted to stick around even after confessing. My guy has come around anyway so I have closed all my accounts. Soo, let's go back to OP...
Bells Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 No, I didn't lie to them. I clearly told them I'm dating however not sure where it was heading, but suprisingly all of them still wanted to stick around even after confessing. My guy has come around anyway so I have closed all my accounts. Soo, let's go back to OP... Okay, now you have me confused....didn't lie to them about what? Clearly told them you're dating, dating someone exclusively? What was the confession about? You're guy has "come around" ...meaning?
likestolaugh Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 sure. The first girl I contacted met up. We've gone on 2 dates, and have talked a lot. We'll see where it goes now though... if she accepts the pivotal 3rd date... that's the key here...
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