n9688m Posted November 5, 2008 Share Posted November 5, 2008 See, I don't like this. She is not ALLOWING you anything Yes- I agree 10,000% !!!!! Even for a moment entertaining the thought that she is able to "allow" a father to see his kids sets a very scary legal precedent - that must be avoided at all costs. You need to set an maintain a very clear status quo of non-negotiable equal time with the children. And staying in the house helps further the custody argument as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author skinman Posted November 5, 2008 Author Share Posted November 5, 2008 See, I don't like this. She is not ALLOWING you anything, you as a parent have an equal right to see your kids when you want to. No custody has been set and I am sure you don't want that, but she needs to understand, that you still pay 1/2 the bills, your name is still on the house and you have equal custody to see your daughter. Make sure you're not so nice that you get taken advantage of... no dont worry about that.. thanks though ! i have been getting my place together is the reason i havent seen them more. i speak every night with them and she is actually not giving any grief about the visits... Link to post Share on other sites
Author skinman Posted November 5, 2008 Author Share Posted November 5, 2008 When my H and I seperated (we have no kids) I polietly asked him to leave the house while I packed up my things and I went to my dads. It was my choice to leave and I did just that, I didn't ask him to leave. During this time, we never changed bank accounts and my money was till deposited into our joint account. I planned on paying things 50/50 if anything happened, to include the mortgage even if I didn't live there...we are thankfully back together. glad to hear that you are trying to work things out.. this is my hope to that after being apart maybe she will want to try.. if not by then I should be well on my way to being healed. how long were you apart ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author skinman Posted November 5, 2008 Author Share Posted November 5, 2008 Have you consulted legal counsel? You may have just set a bad precedent which will regret. In any event, you haven't answered the question - why did you move out? Why not your wife? i moved hoping for a reconciliation.. and it was easier for me to move.. i have an appoinment next week with an attorney to talk about my case. i wasnt going to seperate my daughter from her sister is why i chose to leave.. I am not worried about losing my share of the house that will be taken care of in Divorce court.. VA is a 50/50 state for property accumulated during a marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
n9688m Posted November 5, 2008 Share Posted November 5, 2008 i moved hoping for a reconciliation.. Why would that help? and it was easier for me to move.. Easier for whom? For your wife? Why make things easier? Let her see the consequences of her action. i wasnt going to seperate my daughter from her sister is why i chose to leave.. Dont' separate them - keep seeing them BOTH half the time. I am not worried about losing my share of the house that will be taken care of in Divorce court.. There are lots of transaction costs of moving that will never be spllit in a divorce. WHoever moves pays more. Moreover you might weaken your custody case by moving - that's the major risk. I really doubt a lawyer would recommend you move. Highly, highly unlnikely. Link to post Share on other sites
TrustInYourself Posted November 5, 2008 Share Posted November 5, 2008 I think it depends on who we are dealing with? Are we dealing with a woman that is done or a woman that just needs time to sort out her feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
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