beyondthegraysky Posted November 6, 2008 Share Posted November 6, 2008 Hi all, I was looking for some help on a situation I have been dealing with for quite some time now, I just can't get it out of my mind.. So, I am a girl (bi-sexual so there is no confusion!) and I have been best friends with this girl who lives across country. She is just that one person that I define as my everything and it was that way for as well. We have been online friends for about 5 or 6 years, and really you couldn't tell the difference from me knowing her face to face or just from meeting on the net. We tell each other everything, we talked literally everyday and all day through instant messaging, texting, and talking on the phone. There was a time where neither of us would go out, and if we did we still would be talking somehow. There were also times where she would tell me that she liked me, but I didn't know what to say because I didn't know if she was joking or not, but the more and more I think about it.. Why would she be? I don't know, we just had this really really strong connection together, and the more and more we were friends, the harder it was to go on without her. I told her everything, and she told me everything. She knows how I feel for her, that's quite obvious...It's like we pretty much were going out, but it was unofficial...Until I think I ruined it? See, there was a point a few months ago where I told myself I was over her, and one day I decided to tell her about this other girl I liked, and I would go on and on about her, telling her all about this new girl, but then it came to a point where I may have said too much, because her and I just stopped talking all of a sudden, and I had asked her a while ago, why this is happening..And she brought up the fact that she didn't want to hear about this other girl I had liked and that everytime she would try to help me out, I'd never be happy enough, so she just one day didn't want to bother anymore. Is she jealous or what? Because other than that factor, there are no real reasons there should be a change in our friendship...Or whatever. Last week or just about 2 weeks ago now she came to my city, Philadelphia and was traveling up and down the east coast. The last night she stayed in a hotel that was pretty close to me, so I decided that I would surprise her and go visit her before she took off for her flight. She had no idea that I knew where she was staying or how I figured it all out. I got to the hotel at like 1 in the morning, and wrote her this note saying that I think she should come down to the lobby and say hi to me, because I came out here to see you before leave. I had the security guard slip it under her door and when she woke up like 4 hours later she got the note and texted me and told me she was coming down. It was the best moment of my life when we saw eachother. I had this priceless look on my face, as well as she. It was like a scene from the notebook (LOL), I ran up to her and gave her the biggest hug ever, I practically spun her around in the air! And she just kept telling me that I was insane, she was speechless at her best and couldn't stop smiling. She just kept hugging me, those long hugs, practically squeezing me to death...We took a picture together..and it .. Ahh just the best 5 mins ever. I was really nervous at first, but when I saw her, that all just went away... When she got back home, she kept bringing the situation up and said she couldn't believe what I did, and when she read the note, she cried... BUT! Now everything is going back to how it was, we hardly talk anymore like we used to, and it's just killing me. Why did she act all lovey dovey to me in person-act like she never wanted to leave, and now it's going back to how things were..Downhill. It's driving me insane, and all I want to do is make things right again. What do I do? I can't seem to get that moment, and all the memories we shared out of my mind, I miss her and how we used to be. All my thoughts are consumed by her. Ugh. Has anyone had this problem or know what to do? It would be greatly appreciated! Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted November 7, 2008 Share Posted November 7, 2008 I can't seem to get that moment, and all the memories we shared out of my mind, I miss her and how we used to be. All my thoughts are consumed by her. Ugh. Has anyone had this problem or know what to do? It would be greatly appreciated! Thanks! That is what you tell HER. And let her know you are not interested in the other girl and never really were. You are just going to have to be vulnerable. Then the ball is in her court. Good Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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