ILuvAJ4Life Posted September 2, 2003 Share Posted September 2, 2003 I don't know if any of the same people are here but we'll see. I posted a thread like 2 months ago. I was involved with a married man for 2 years ( I did not know he was married untill 5 months into the relationship) not that it makes it any better anyways I decided to break it off the 4th of July weekend. I was doing so good. I decided to tell his wife everything for the 3rd time. He lyed about everything and made it seem like I was a stalker which is fine because of course that is what he is going to do in front of his wife. So they decided to stay together again. After that everything was fine I felt like I could let go because I knew the truth, that he was not the man I thought he was and therefore I wasn't really in love with him but someone who looks exactly like him. I was doing so good and I was so proud of myself. I cried a few times because I missed what I thought I had even if it wasn't real it felt real at the time and I believed it was real. Anyways. He decided to show up at the place he knows I hang out at on sat nights and I know he went there because of me. He had told me before all this happened that he dislikes the place. He had his friend come over to me and ask me if I would talk to him, against my better judgement I did talk to him don't worry nothing happened. He told me he was sorry and how much he loves me and that he thinks about me everyday. He told me he was sorry for disrespecting me in front of his wife and he said when its all over he hopes that I am still there. I nodded and left. The only problem now is that I feel like I'm back where I started. I can't stop thinking about him. I still don't want to be with him but I feel like I've had a relapse. It's like being addicted to drugs and then stopping and then seeing it or getting a slight taste of it. I feel like I am addicted all over and I've lost all the prgress that I've made. I need help. any advice would be GREATLY appreciated. Thanks ------Heartbroken all over again Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted September 2, 2003 Share Posted September 2, 2003 Several all ties with this married man. Don't be lured to talk to him, don't accept calls from him, no email, no messages from friends, no nothing. If you bump into him, ask him very firmly to stay out of your life or you will get a court injunction requiring same. In order to straighten your life out and open yourself up to a healthy realtionship, you need to get away from this guy for all time. You had absolutely NOTHING with him except a lie that felt good. He continues to live a lie. Why in heaven's name would you want somebody like that in your life? I hope you will get some counselling to help you realize you deserve better...or to help you learn why you are attracted to drama and a relationship with a deceitful, married man when you could have other far more healthy romantic relationships. It's all up to you. This one is going nowhere. You need to find out exactly why you would be stuck in this place and not extremely angry at him for lying to you and wasting your time. He's clearly sent you a message that he prefers to be with his wife...because that is exactly where he is. How many times does he have to deny involvement with you before you will understand you're only somebody he uses for his selfish wants??? Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted September 2, 2003 Share Posted September 2, 2003 [color=indigo]He told me he was sorry for disrespecting me in front of his wife and he said when its all over he hopes that I am still there.[/color] honey, this man is so full of ****, his eyes are past the color brown! He's going to pour all his energy into telling you/convincing you that he loves you, that he wants you and that he needs you, that this is where you are meant to be. DON'T BELIEVE HIM!!!! if he's okay with denying you infront of the wife he has no love for, then he's okay for lying to you just to keep the status quo (i.e. having you exactly where he wants you). you don't walk away a winner, and neither does his wife, if you give in to his sweet talk. Tell him to take a hike or you'll show up again at his house with PROOF that he's screwing the both of you over. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ILuvAJ4Life Posted September 2, 2003 Author Share Posted September 2, 2003 "Why in heaven's name would you want somebody like that in your life?" I don't want him in my life, I know that but at the same time I miss what I had, I miss what I though he was. It's almost feels like I was totally in love and had what I wanted from a man but then he moved away forever and there was this man who looked exactly like him but was someone I could never fall in love with. It would be like my mind playing tricks on me. I look at him and can't help but feel that way. I can tell myself it's not the same person and I believe that. I know that but heart is deaf. It's almost as if my mind doesn't connect or have any involvment with my heart. I might be going crazy, or maybe I am upset because he came to me and tryed to fill my head with bull*#$@! all over again or maybe it's because I haven't had enough time to get over it before seeing him again. I don't want to be with him and I will not be with him. What I want to know is how could I be doing so good and then just by seeing him and him throwing me some of the same old line ... how could I have such a relapse. I think I am going to see a counselor. I think that would help. I know the truth and thats why I continue to not call him, but if I know and I don't want him around why am I so upset? Link to post Share on other sites
Soon2bsngl Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 I'm not sure if any of the same people are here, I know this is an old post but I was following some of you guys for quite some time. I'm just curious how this worked out for you, did you continue the relationship with him or were you able to remain strong? Link to post Share on other sites
Soon2bsngl Posted December 3, 2004 Share Posted December 3, 2004 Is anyone still here? Link to post Share on other sites
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