What is she thinking

[isn700]

Wife and I have been seperate for over two months. Its been limited contact. Mostly me contacting. I was supposed to be NC again, but I just called her. I asked her what her plans are now, where do we go from here. No answer. So I explained that she has to meet me halfway. She said she knows that. So she agreed to come to town to meet the counsellar. WOW. But then she brought up stupid emotional, irrational things. Anxiety about meeting, about seeing the city again, and the bad feelings. Also she said, the meeting may be the make or break for us.

 

I was like woah, hold on there. You cant come here thinking like this. These emotions are normal, but you cant let them dictate your desicion. How am I supposed to have this meeting with us and the counsellar knowing that you have these preconcieved thoughts.

 

So she will take the next few days to think about it and decide if she wants to come. I told her this not fair, you cant leave me hanging like this.

 

So I dont know, what to do..

[Valdar]

I know it sucks, but I think waiting is what you have to do. If you pressure her then that's more reason to not meet. I think you need to give her space and tell her that you understand that she needs time to make these types of decisions.

 

I know it's hard to not contact her and keep your own space. To help myself I created a private blog to write down everything I was feeling, it doesn't sound like much, but it helps and it's interesting to look back on now.

[isn700]

I am not sure what to make of her statement, saying that this meeting will make or break it. I have never heard of anything so irresponsible and immature. This is our first meeting in over two months, she has even begun to see someone. I dont get it. Plus I am not sure if it will even happen. I just need to figure out what she meant.