carhill Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 Understanding what her "friendship" was predicated upon will help you move on with your life. What I meant to say was "how much of her time and interest was focused on your life?". This is crucial because, in these situations, invariably, it becomes about her and you're so infatuated you don't even notice it's happening. Her mere presence is all the validation you require. Been there, done that, ate the pain sandwich. Link to post Share on other sites
lkjh Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 You are right. I am fearful. Honestly though, I didn't think about telling the other guy until it was mentioned here. Do you really think there would be a point at all to tell him now?? I can only imagine the hurt he is probably experiencing just with the whole thing being over. Why would I pour salt in the wound at this point? If they are really over then no it probably wouldnt do any good. But who said its really over. Couples split and get back together all the time. Also, all you know is that they broke the engagement. They may still be talking. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tfredro Posted March 25, 2009 Author Share Posted March 25, 2009 You are so right Carhill. How do I get over that feeling. I think I took a step tonight... She texted me something like "does the fact that I'm no longer engaged may you think of the possiblity of something with us happening". Basically it was a long text (i freakin hate texting) conversation... I ended the conversation by basically saying that I don't want her to text or talk to me and to avoid me in the office. To which she responded that she'll do her best....but has to have me sign some work stuff tomorrow morning... and her is the kicker... I'm having a meeting for a work project tomorrow. Basically I need about 20 people to work on a project for the next year... and she is signing up for it... and probably has the seniority to get on the project.... talk about awkward... Now how am I supposed to avoid her and have time to get over her and move on and such?? Link to post Share on other sites
manugeorge Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 oooh, the tempting Apple in the Garden of Eden. I'm going to get bashed for this but I say bite it. You know you want her, you didn't heed advice the very first time you came here which was when you were actually about to do something wrong--infidelity--. So why heed the advice now? She is free and clear, all yours for the taking. What exactly would be the point in staying away from her now? Link to post Share on other sites
samspade Posted March 25, 2009 Share Posted March 25, 2009 There are plenty of people who will cheat even if they are in a good relationship. Saying the relationship is bad is just a way to reduce the blame. If someone is motivated to cheat, then it's not a good relationship. That doesn't reduce the blame. You have a choice - fix the relationship, end it, or cheat. Link to post Share on other sites
jnj express Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 she probably had cold feet about her future, but unfortunatly the true you came out. You can wear the label, YOU ARE A SCUMBAG. You try to make it look like you are telling others what it was like. YOU ARE A SNAKE, YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THE PAIN IS LIKE, AND YOU HAVE CAUSED PAIN TO ANOTHER INNOCENT PERSON. You never really knew whether their relationship had problems, you just took her word for it, and she just maybe magnified little things into a reason, to cheat on her partner. You two deserve each other. Don't come here with your drivel about how you are the poster boy for being hurt. MORE THAN LIKELY YOU WERE THE CAUSE OF THAT BREAKUP Link to post Share on other sites
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