cariney Posted November 13, 2008 Share Posted November 13, 2008 Hi, I just came back from a trip to MX. I am married (not a happy marriage) and I have a 3yod. The problem is that on my trip.... I found someone that was really attracted to me... I am 28 and he is 24. I am not happy in my marriage. My husband is aware. While in MX I had the opportunity to be unfaithful to my husband... but I wasn't. The problem is that now I think of the other guy constantly... I try and make things work with my husband. but I think i'ts over for us... I know If I do see this guy again ... if we are intimate ... It will only be a one night stand .... I am so confused!!!! By the way ... I am back in LA with my family... But I will travel to MX in the near future ....what will I do when I see him again .....what will I do with all this hunger for love???? Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted November 13, 2008 Share Posted November 13, 2008 What you feel for guy in MX is lust. That's it. Just lust. Stop thinking about it and it will go away. Can't stop thinking about it? Sure you can. Just look into the face of your 3 year old and imagine her finding out one day that her mom cheated on her father because you couldn't control your lust for some guy you just met and knew would only be a one night stand. Need something else to think about? Think about how you're going to tell your husband that your marriage is in deep trouble and you're thinking it might be over. You say he's aware you are unhappy, but does he know you are on the verge of cheating? Maybe try some marriage counseling to get to the bottom of your problems and try to work through them with your husband. You owe your 3 year old at least a TRY to work on your marriage before you run off cheating. If you're unhappy in your marriage, cheating is not the answer. It will only make your problems 100 times worse. If things are THAT bad, you can end your marriage FIRST and THEN go out and screw whoever you like. Don't make this mistake you will truly regret every time you have to lie to your husband about it, and every time you have to look into your child's face and lie to her about who you are. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cariney Posted November 13, 2008 Author Share Posted November 13, 2008 thank you!!!! i will really think about ur words tonight... Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted November 13, 2008 Share Posted November 13, 2008 I hope you will! You obviously came here to ask for advice because you are uncertain and know this isn't a good idea. Whenever you're in doubt, take the high road and do the right thing as opposed to the wrong thing. You'll like yourself much more that way, in the end. Link to post Share on other sites
Ironman75 Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 I think the most important thing to remember is what you think about you bring about. If you think the marriage is over than it is. And it works the same if you think the marriage can be saved. But cheating is never the answer. It only creates more problems. So be true to yourself if not your husband and respect the bond you both once shared. And the love you both share for your baby. Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 No don't it not only will it ruin your marriage even more and hurt both your husband and child but you solve nothing having a one-night stand. Ok let's say you do end up doing it, then you go back to reality, what about your problems in your marriage, they would still be unaddress. I like how one poster say it, think about how you would be able to look into your child's eye and lie about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Meaplus3 Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 If your unhappy with your marriage then you need to deal with that first. IMO, if you continue to be unhappy than that urge can very easily come back. So.. what do you plan to do about the state of your marriage? AP:) Link to post Share on other sites
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