can this work

[done giving]

My husband and I separated as I have already said, well he begged to come back and it lasted 2 days, we both know we are not going to fix what has been broken but want things to go well as possible, we have talked today and we are both sure it is over and going to get a divorce. One major problem, the home we share was bought for us by my parents, we paid mortgage just needed their help, he is moving out but says he will come to help with yard work when needed and other things around here till we sell. we also have a dog and neither of us want to get rid of her, I have agreed he can have her but until we sell our home and is able to get his own place he cannot take her with him(he is staying with family) so I have agreed to keep her with me for now. Can this possible work? We don't have children but have been through a lot of things in the 11 years of our marriage and don't want to leave hating each other. Funny how now that we both are ready to let the other one go there is a peacefulness now that hasn't been there for along time. Has anyone been in a similar situation? and if so how did things work out for you and can you give me suggestions on making this work for both he and I. thank you for reading and any advice.

[Curmudgeon]

It sounds to me like you're doing this absolutely the right way. You're being civilized and considerate of one another -- even loving, regardless of the fact it isn't a love that will hold the marriage together.

 

As long as you both can maintain this cooperative, civilized, helpful approach to your separation and possible divorce you will both have much to be thankful in the end. Above all, you'll each have salvaged a true friend.