MO3434 Posted November 18, 2008 Share Posted November 18, 2008 Hi Everyone! Lately I have been struggling with a future long distance relationship and created an account on here to get the advice from the best source ---the people who have already (or are currently) in a LDR. Let me give you some background first...My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 months now...we met in college (her a freshman; me a sophomore)...Before we met though, we talked to each other everyday for about 4 months (which was also basically a LDR because she lived 45 min away and only saw her once during these 4 months).. Last week, I found out she got accepted to the disney college program in florida. I am in college in pennsylvania and will be without her all next semester and summer...She does not leave until Jan 22nd and will be back Aug 7th... The problem is I am struggling SOOO BAD right now...I know we did the whole only talking to each other on the phone and webcam for 4 months before we started dating...but i am worried about being without this girl for 6 whole months! I might get to see her about half way through but still have been feeling quite depressed lately I Have such strong feelings for this girl...we go together so well and I dont want to lose this... We have agreed that no matter what (whether we break up or stick this out) we both want our love to last and be together once we get back (if we dont stick it our)...I love this girl..I just dont like change and hate the fact I might only see her once in the next 6 months What im asking is: 1) will it get easier once (or if...) i get used to it; 2) how can i follow my heart instead of listening to my head and 3) how long did it take you in your LDR to adjust to your love being far away from you? I know this is really long but i am just so confused and could use a lot of help! This forum makes me feel better and I appreciate everyones help...Good Luck to everyone else in their LDR's Link to post Share on other sites
Author MO3434 Posted November 18, 2008 Author Share Posted November 18, 2008 please i could really use any help at all right now Link to post Share on other sites
Maggs Posted November 18, 2008 Share Posted November 18, 2008 Hi MO3434 and welcome to the boards! This will be a big support for you during your LD times. My BF and I are just at the end of 4 months apart--to the day to be exact! It's the longest we've been apart. I know there's lots on here who've done even longer than that. We had a nearly a year together before we went into LDR. Those last few weeks were very very stressful. We were arguing over the stupidest of things, so be strong--it will be a hard time. During a really long time apart, the first couple of weeks are hard. But I've found that you just get into a routine of your own life--work, school, friends and family and making time to talk to your partner. I miss him of course, but it doesn't dwell on my mind or make me depressed everyday. So yes, you sort of do get used to it. Like when you know you have a long drive ahead of you, or an overnight flight--you just get into this automatic mindset and do it! I know it seems daunting right now, and it is! But just go day by day. Make sure you talk everyday in some form or another. If you can...play some games online together, or send letters or pkgs. Some days you both could be very busy and all you'll get is an email out, but that's ok because you'll make up for it the next day by talking more. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author MO3434 Posted November 18, 2008 Author Share Posted November 18, 2008 Thank you so much!..im hoping i adjust to it fairly quickly...6 months just seems SOOO Long i just hope the times go fast...im really going to miss my best friend Link to post Share on other sites
JaydaLeah Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 hi MO, It wont be easy but it is definitely possible. I think the impt thing is to have a talk and set a goal for the relationship. Eg, when is a good time to finally move back with each other. Meanwhile, u can set short term goals such as visit trips. This will be something u both can look forward to. Lots of communication, lots of compromise and understanding. My bf has been away from me for a month now and even though it hasn't been easy, (lousy ph connection that makes it a pain to chat, lousy internet availability) but we are both determine to make it work. So just make sure you both have a common target and frequency! And he will be back to spend Xmas with me so we are SO looking forward to it. I guess that is what makes me look forward too! All the best.. =) Link to post Share on other sites
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