RoxyJet92 Posted November 20, 2008 Share Posted November 20, 2008 Hi everyone! Im new here. Ive never posted on a website,but i just need to get out how im feeling. Sorry its so long! Last week i come home from work to find an email from a female friend of my boyfriend. (We've been together for over 4 yrs). In it, she says that my BF has also been dating her sister for the past year. She said that the girls been in my house when i was out of town and had sex with my BF. She was telling me this hoping she could go back to her sister w/ this info adn her sister would wise up and move on. She said that my BF had told the other girl that we werent dating anymore..just living together since i had no place to go (?!? not true). I was numb,sick,horrified and shocked. Mostly because in May of this yr ,after lots of questioning he admitted to making out with a girl a few times long ago. When this came out,i broke off our engagement and agreed to try to work it out. He had cried and cried and promised he'd never do it again..then this comes out! I confronted him and he starting out with saying the girl that emailed me was mad at him and that he was FRIENDS with the other girl,but thats it. I was so confused i stayed. The next day i get another email and it has more detail. I ask him about it and he admits to makin out with her and giving her the wrong impression but thats all. He seems really apologetic and i stay..then i decide to write the other girl letting her know that we were dating when he was with her and that he only admits to kissing her. She wrote me back and said that they had sex..many times and that he took her virginity. i was crushed. He still claims its false. He says he would have no reason to lie at this point. He says the girls are mad at him because he got them fired at work. We've had many nites of talking,crying,screaming and confessing. He admits to taking me forgranted and that he will be the guy i deserve. But im so nervous. I tried to leave and i physically couldnt force myself out of the door. I do love him so much. I just dont want to be the fool again. It kills me that he did it again after promising he never would. My friends are awesome and i know i have a place to go if i choose. I am just torn. This is my longest relationship ive had..its scary to walk away. Im just hoping to get feedback and maybe hear from others who have done it. thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
AngelinaS Posted November 20, 2008 Share Posted November 20, 2008 I would suggest you to just forget about this guy. He doesnt seem to be the right guy. Why should he even kiss someone if he is in love with you? Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted November 20, 2008 Share Posted November 20, 2008 Sorry but he is lying to you. He constantly cheats and betrays you. You would be an absolute fool to consider marrying him. If you do he will continue to cheat on you and you will end up being a divorced single parent. Is this what you want? If the roles were reversed do you think he would have accepted this from you? Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted November 20, 2008 Share Posted November 20, 2008 The more you forgive him, the more he'll stray and betray. Why? because he knows he can. And that you'll always forgive him. What you have for him is not love. it's dependence. You're with him because you think he's the best thing for you, and you won't find anyone better. Trust me. he isn't - and you will. Whatever it takes, however you do it - leave. And never contact him again. Even if it means asking your friends to confiscate your 'phone, computer and car!! Link to post Share on other sites
OnTheEdge Posted November 23, 2008 Share Posted November 23, 2008 find out as much info as possible then leave if its true...but make sure u find out first cuz he could be tellin the truth...they could be some scheming bitches lol Link to post Share on other sites
soconfused01 Posted November 23, 2008 Share Posted November 23, 2008 he's already cheated on you, he's already lied to you about it, of course he's doing it again. you don't want to be the fool, but you are being it right now by not leaving him. We only get one life, are you going to devote your to someone who does these things to you? You may be very forgiving, but not all men out there are going to need your forgiveness for something like this because they are real men who would respect you and be devoted to you from the beginning. You're never going to find something better unless you go look for it. And really go look for it. Cut him out of your life completely. You've given him enough chances. He messed this up, and you don't owe him anything. Link to post Share on other sites
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