I'm so embarassed of my penis and weight that I'm too ashamed to have sex

[ShadMan]

I have an issue and I'm wondering if something is medically wrong with me. I'm 22, I use to weigh a lot more but I weigh 230 now and stand about 5'9. I know that the more overweight you are, the smaller your penis is.. so I've heard.

But at the age of 22, my penis when soft is an inch or two, very small, but is also extremely thin as well. When I'm hard, I may get like 4 or 5" long. Either soft or hard, my penis is very thin.. in fact I can take just my thumb and middle finger and completely wrap them around my penis.

 

On top of that, I'm so embarassed of it I haven't had sex yet and too ashamed of it.. that and plus my weight.. what's wrong with me?

[2SidestoStories]

Do you have small hands? Or rather, short fingers? Because if I understand you right, you can wrap your middle finger and thumb (making that lovely O shape) around it. SO...are your fingertips just touching around it?

 

Now mind you, I'm a woman, so replying to this may not actually be "appropriate." However, I know from my own experience, the two men I've been with who were "small" were significantly better lovers than the one who was "big." You'll find, if you do some searching around on this forum, that there are quite a few gals who agree with that notion!

 

My guess is there is nothing wrong with your penis, but rather, you're lacking confidence in general (going out on a limb? Probably not.) My suggestion is not to sweat your concerns about your man-parts, and start working on YOU.

[ShadMan]

Everything is small on me: hands, fingers, feet.. but I'm not exaggerating on my penis.. you know those big black permanant marker.. the bigger ones not the small tipped ones? My penis is probably as thin as that.. a little bigger than a cigar perhaps.. but thin nonetheless.

[Yeti]

i'm gonna help you out here... guy to guy... it's all in your head... believe you me. and that whole thing about bigger men have small penises... that's a crock. they only seem smaller, because your body is larger, the penis doesn't gain weight like your butt does... or every guy would be eating McDonald's everyday. i know this for a fact, i weighed 180 lbs. and started on a medication for a seizure disorder... i gained 100 lbs. going up to 280 in weight. i swear to god, some days i thought mine disappeared. after getting off the medication and going back down to my normal weight, everything was back to normal down below... so don't sweat it, it's just all in your head...

 

- Yeti

[ShadMan]

No, seriously.. it's not in my head.. I'm being 100% serious on what I'm saying.. it's really that small.. and if you still dont' believe me perhaps I can send you a pic.. that's how confident I am that it's not in my head.. for a person my age it shouldn't be the way it is. It's not normal. My pubic hair is longer than my penis!

[Yeti]

well... if you are really insecure about the size of your penis, i mean to the point that it's preventing you from going out and meeting people... there are things you can try. you can shave your pubic area in order to make the appearance bigger. you could look up manuals on the internet for exercises to try out... some people have said that the exercises have actually worked, and have seen a definite increase in size. if all else fails, and you really feel horrible about how you look because of this, there is always surgery to increase size... though this is not something i truly recommend, for there are risks to the process and it needs to be thoroughly thought through... but if women are enlarging their breasts, why not let men enlarge their penises...

 

good luck with the penis situation...

- Yeti

[d.stevens]

Here's some tips for ya.

 

~ Stop comparing yourself to anyone else. There is no such thing as normal.

 

~ Everybody thinks about themselves 99.9% of the time. That includes the lady that you'll be with. Unfortunately, the ones that don't realize this (that everyone is thinking of themselves) leaves themselves trapped in self doubt and buried in insecurities. Most ladies don't want the light on anyhow for this exact reason lol. So relax, take a load off and enjoy what can be offered to you.

 

~ The act of intercourse perhaps should be only a small percentage of love making anyway (In My Opinion). "Giving" (in many ways) her the attention, you could literally spend hours roaming around her body, pleasuring, teasing and building up her arousal using things like Massage Therapy. Using communication through thought, feelings and touch. She could have a fantastic time, to the point where she couldn't give a rip even if you had a penis lol. The connection isn't only physical.

 

If you have it together upstairs. Keep clean hygiene. Treat her with respect. Keep the focus on giving and not worrying about receiving. You should be good to go.

 

For the most part it's not anything like you see in porn.

 

Most of the hot chicks go for the geeks for some reason anyway. Just enjoy who you are and share your blessings.

[longlegzs80]

Okay, I don't know how other women feel about a man's size but I really don't care about the size as long as you can work it in the bedroom, who gives a sh*t. But in some ways I can understand why you feel embarrassed by your penis size. I know with being a women, I have a very big problem with my small chest. So, I guess it can go both ways. But really. If you find a women who loves you, she should respect you with whatever you have to give her. Size is not everything. If she is one of those women who like those guys with the big packages, then so be it. That is just their preference like there are men who like women who big boobs or whatever size they like. But, you just have to face the fact that that is what you have, and if a women makes a comment about the size then she is not worth your time. There are plenty of us women out there who want a decent guy and could really give a crap about size. As long as you can work that bad boy, then you should be fine.

[jalexy]

well i guess all you can do is recognize why you are overweight and i wouldnt go on a diet i would just tune into your body. eat only when hungry and stop when full. you will get to your natural weight that way. but on the other hand, a penis is a penis. small or large, if you cant work it its no good anyways. its all how you work it and how tight the girl is. if she cant feel it, tell her to do some kegels.