Is getting back together a possibility?

[eaglesin04]

I was wondering if anyone has any advice/thinks its possible for me and my ex to get back together.

 

We dated for 7 1/2 months and things seemed to be goin well. As time went along we started fighting about some stuff, nothing really major and we would try and talk about it. I thought everything was worked out but after a few weeks she called me and said it was over. We talked for an hour and she said it was all her. That she would love me 4ever but that she just couldnt be 100% into a relationship at the time. But she made a big deal about us still being friends. I was willing to give that a try.

 

Well being friends didnt go too well. I tried to ask her out again and that kinda pushed her away. We started talkin less, then eventually we stopped talking for a month. Now, we have have been broken up for 2 months and have started to talk again. To say the least some time has passed and some circumstances have changed. Now I want to try and get back together with her. When I tried right after we broke up I told her exactly how I felt and she said NO.

 

First, i plan on trying again, should I tell her how I feel again?? Also, I have not mentioned my intentions of gettin her back to her. I have just opened the communication lines as friends. Hows it going, stuff like that. If this continues to work I guess I want to try and be with her again. How can I show her this? Should I send her gifts? Cards? Just come straight out and tell her??

 

Any advice would be appreciated. Especially from another female. If ur ex were trying to get you back what would u want them to do?? Thanks

[2SidestoStories]

If all you want from this girl is to get back together with her, then I'd completely cool my heels if I were you. It sounds as if she has told you pretty well what's up from her side of things, that being that she does not want to be with you "in that way."

 

If you don't think you're able to just be her friend, which is sadly often the case when you have feelings for someone that aren't reciprocated, then you owe it to yourself to back off and allow yourself time to heal.

 

Respect your ex, though, if you ever expect any chance of even being her friend. If she says no, leave it at that; cut your losses and move forward in your life.

[grounded]

you say circumstances have changed, she said she just could not be in a relationship. how do you know that the changes in the cirumstances would allow her to feel like she wants to try again? Even if they really had and even if you knew, you still can't approach here. if she is that special to where you are willing to not be in a position to pursue other women by waiting on here for a period of time, then why not. but you have to be friends and only friends. be there for her in the way she needs you to, whatever it is. don't whine to her one bit, don't ask for anything, don't tell her what your feelings are unless she asks, don't make rash changes in your life to show her something. make some of the changes in your behavior as a person that she may have talked about in the past, but don't show it to her in a way that makes her think you are trying to get her back. but at some point, maybe a month or two, if she has not made the 1st move, and you find yourself not pursuing other women because of the "what if" thoughts about your ex, i would suggest shutting her out of your life in a respectful way.